About Zachary
Zachary loved Halloween–he enjoyed telling original, spooky stories, making Mummy Dogs for dinner, and going to the pumpkin patch. In this video from October 2007, he and his classmates sing a spooky Halloween song. Immediately after Halloween 2008, Zachary was already planning what to be the following year: he considered dressing up as either Wall-E or Harry Potter. Happy Halloween, Zachary… We miss you.
We offer our heartfelt gratitude to the community for placing
many flowers, candles, toys and tributes to Zachary at the intersection
of Derby and Warring Also, Zach loved the Beatles – his favorite Beatles song
was, “All you need is love”
I miss you Zachy Pooh. It’s been almost a year since you passed away and I heard those horrible words from your Dad, “He’s Gone” As long as you live on in our hearts and memories you will never be completely gone, although your whole family misses you terribly, we still have many fond, funny, and loving memorize to comfort us through our pain. Until we meet again my sweet Grandson
Love and hugs and kisses
Grandma Beverly
Please Drive Safely.
Just a note to say I’m thinking about you.
- Diana
Dear Mr. & Mrs. Cruz,
I live down the street at Derby and College and just wanted to say how touched I am by this beautiful memorial to your son. I am very sorry about your loss. I have passed through that intersection many times by foot and car and had stopped to light a candle, prop up some flowers and a teddy bear that had fallen on a couple occasions. This was the first time visiting the website, and I just wanted to say that I am far more vigilant driving through the neighborhood as a result of living here and finding out about this tragic, horrible incident earlier in the year. I sincerely hope that, with time, you are healing and that you take some solace in knowing that those of us who come to your site use extra caution driving in the neighborhood. I think about it every time I’m tempted to roll through a stop sign somewhere. From the pictures your son seemed like such a beautiful, happy little boy and I hope that you carry that light with you in your individual lives.
- Chris
December 25, 2009
I remember last Christmas. Jeremy and Zachary where in Bev’s video room watching old Christmas Cartoon Classics. After Frosty the Snowman, I came in the room with popcorn and it was time to watch Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer. Zachary wasn’t having it. I thought he just wasn’t very impressed with the low-tech animation, so he left me and Jeremy, but took the popcorn, and headed off into the living room to hang out with everyone there.
But, maybe he wanted to be in the thick of it, where the laughter and love were. Where the Texas Hold ‘em was happening. Where the yummy food was. I can’t say for sure, but I’d like to think Zach (who, by the way, excused himself very politely – even though he took the popcorn) … I’d like to think that Zachary wanted to experience the warmth of family and love that this day is about.
I know today is one of the harder ones. Know that Zachary is in many hearts and prayers this year and always, as are you.
Aunt Lauren
I was sitting with August — he’s Miles age; now, today on Christmas Eve listening to Christmas music and I thought of Zach and then I thought of Frank and Jodi and Miles…
Then I thought of Clark Kerr and watched old videos…
You guys always have a place at the table…
Nate
Dear Frank, Jodie, and Miles,
We have never met, but I wanted to let you know that you and Zachary are in my thoughts. Each time I drive past the memorial on the corner, it brings tears to my eyes. What a beautiful boy, what love he shared and still shares.
Thera
(mother to Anneke age 7 and Alexander age 4)
Missing you a lot today little man.
Your cousins talk about you every day. You are always in our thoughts and in our hearts.
love you
Dear Frank and Jodie and Miles,
I’m thinking of you, and of Zach, today. All my love to you. kzy
I remember that halloween very well. Zachary was very worried that his dragon costume wouldn’t show up in the mail and he called me every day for about three days and would tell me it hadn’t arrived. I reassured him it would be there in a nick of time. And it was he was sooooo excited when he told me about the dragon’s arrival. His shield and breast plate protects the scarecrow in Zach’s Garden at Grandma Beverly’s from all the munching birds. Miss you Babycakes Happy Halloween.
Love Grandma Beverly XXXOOXXXOXOXOXOXOXOX!!!!!!!!!
Zachary is remembered always, including today, on Dia de los Muertos. I noticed someone had put up beautiful, colorful paper cutout banners at the intersection.
I always wondered about the flowers I saw as I drove through the tragic intersection. Please accept my condolences.
Whenever I drive past the memorial, I noticed the flowers are always lively, as if they are being brought in anew every week. I’d imagine Zachary ever more so livelier during his stay on this world.
I’ll do my bit in his memory and for victims of similar tragedies to always drive responsibly.
Dear Frank and Jodi, I am a parent of two boys at Chabot Elementary, and have a common acquaintance, Karen Black, who knew Zachary. I drive past the wonderful memorial to your lovely boy almost daily, and each time I think of you and your beautiful, young son, and my heart goes out to you. On this Halloween I have seen your pumpkin, and wanted to share my condolences, and heartfelt considerations. All love and good feelings, go out to you and your whole family on this holiday – from my family to yours – Love, Jeff
Thinking of you Zach. Many love you here.
dear cruz family,
when school started up again this year i thought of your family and the pain you must be experiencing that day. i imagine it must be especially painful as the calender passes days with events zachary would have been a part of.
i think of you all often. zachary was a beautiful boy. my son aidin enjoyed playing with him at K2.
my thoughts are with you.
Vera
Thanks Zach, for showing me that it’s ok to love The Beatles. They and you are tangled up in my head now, and that is awesome.
I was in the Memorial Stadium this evening while reading the story of your beloved little boy. My eyes were filled with tears when I looked at little Zachary’s picture with Oski. As in the lyrics of a Cal song: “our sturdy Golden Bear is watching from the skies.” I am sure Zachary is also there with angels and Golden Bear, and he will live forever in many hearts.
You left a lot undone, but the one thing you did great was to love everyone, who can ask for more. You did it all!
I wrote a while back (possibly to the wrong e-mail) that the morning of the accident, a few hours before it would occur, when I drove by the site, I saw two beautiful young women go to that center area in the intersection, kneel down, and put flowers there. They looked like they were praying for someone they deeply, deeply loved. I thought it was really beautiful and really sad because some amazingly loved person must have died at that spot. Then an amazingly loved person did pass on at that spot several hours later. Who even knows in this big universe what the explanation is for this occurrence BEFORE the accident, but one possibility is that they were spreading love over the place to ease the way for a new beautiful angel. We’ll never know, but what is certain, Zachary was and is vividly alive in so many hearts.
I watched Shark vs. Helicopter and thought: this sweet boy managed to create more love in his few years here than most people create in a lifetime. And it keeps on growing…
I heard about this story/sighting/devine prperation and I feel there it something to it. Never in a Million Years did I ever think our family could indure so much pain, sadness and sorrow, but here we are dealing with the lose of Zachary every single day. I still don’t always believe it’s true but then I visit the website and know it is. All we need is Love and we might servive this awful time and make a change for the better in this quickly passing life. Zach was indeed a very special boy. Loved by all who knew him and loved now by many who have just found him. Maybe one of the lessons to be learned is to Love everybody, Laugh alot,slow down and enjoy this life for we never know when we will be called to a higher better place.
Thank you for sharing:) Grandma Beverly
It’s been 4 months to day since my sweet grandson was killed at the corner of Darby and Warring in Berkeley California. I’ve laughed and cried today. I laughed to day because I had a great memory of Zach:) seeing my dog Cheyenne a Husky after her fuzzy hairy body was shaved for the summer and her head was still bushy. Well Zach was about 2 1/2 years old and went to the back door of my house and seen the dog. He just started laughing and giggling he thought she looked soooo funny. We were all cracking up at Zach. Even at that young age he knew what was funny. When I picked up Cheyenne today from the groomer, the groomer left this little pom pom on the tip of the dog’s tail and I started busting up and thought how funny Zach would think Cheyenne looked.
I miss you buddy and that makes me cry.:(
I was devastated when I heard about your loss. My daughter is about three weeks older than Zachary and is also in kindergarten. We remember seeing Zachary when we toured La Conte Elementary in late January 2009 for our younger son, who will enter kindergarten this fall at John Muir. My son, Kenji, and I pass through that intersection every day on the way to his preschool and each time I say a silent prayer for Zach. I also lit a candle for him at Newman Hall. I know one thing for certain: He’s busy getting everything ready for when you join him in Heaven. His spirit is always around you – you just can’t see or hear him.
If you ever establish a memorial scholarship in Zach’s name, my wife and I will gladly donate. Perhaps a yearly “Zachary Cruz Send a Kid to Summer Camp” type of thing? Please post any info on this site or the Berkeley Parents Network. I didn’t get to meet Zach that day in Ms. Gee’s class, but I feel like I known him for a long time. He was special in so many ways. Warmest regards, Dan Rohn
To Frank, Jodi, and the rest of the Cruz family…
Today i was at Jamba Juice.. i don’t really care for it but
i was with a girl and she wanted to go, so i went.
As i was standing in line I happen to just look out the right window
at the right time, and who do i see Frank! A dear friend of mine
So as we were talking he asks me what i been up to, i tell him not much
one thing however i am really trying to do is become a firefighter
told him i was going to Chabot to become one. That’s when he gave me the news. Unfortunately i did not know Zach, i never got the chance to
talk to him or even shake his hand, but i was devastated to hear the news. Frank told me that there will be a scholarship in honor of Zachary to help those who want to be a firefighter or EMT. While starting a career is my focus, i have a new goal, to become a Hero, to reach my goal so that i can save and help others, God bless you all
Lawrence Wiley
Frank, Jodie & baby Miles
I just want you to know that you and Zachary are still in my thoughts and prayers.
Frank, Jodie & baby Miles
I just want you know that you and Zachary are still in my thoughts and prayers.
We think about you all the time Zach. Walking on campus yesterday made us remember how much you loved it. We went up the Campanile for you.
<3
I am so sorry for your loss. From what I’ve read in newspapers and websites on childrens’ deaths, it is always the child with the most potential. I did not know Zachary, but from what I have read, he was probably the sweetest boy a person could ever know. Like I said, he had a lot of potential, but God needed him in Heaven. He is looking down on you, using his love and memory to dry your tears. Best of luck, love and memory.
P.S- All You Need Is Love is one of the best Beatles songs. Thank you so much for creating this website and letting me read about this magnificent boy.
My love and prayers will always be with you.
Hi Frank and Jodie,
I visit this site often to see the comments, your messages and the sweet picture of Zachary. Just want to know that you are on my heart and in my prayers as you adjust to a different life and try to understand where God is in your loss. As a contemporary song says, “When you can’t trust His hand, trust His heart.” His plans are to prosper you, not to harm you, and to give you hope and a future. If you recall, that’s from Jeremiah 29:11.
I’ve never experienced anything as huge as what you are going through. I’m glad you have so many who have supported you and loved you through the days up til now.
Jodie, I guess you heard how her Aunt Dorothy and Uncle Russell lost their firstborn at 5 in an auto accident, then their second born to cancer. When I think about Zachary and what you’ve been dealing with, I have a new appreciation for what they must have gone through.
Aunt Norene
HI
My special thought for today:
Some people touch our lives only briefly…
while others leave a lasting impression and are never forgoten.
My beautiful grandson Zachary has done both.
Love and miss you Zachy Pooh.
Grandma Beverly
No matter how dark, there is always hope and love.
We decided to go get some tacos on Sunday at Johnny’s in Ventura and we decided to have our little feast at the cross in Ventura. It was a beautiful day and we just sat on the steps to look at how small everthing was from the hill we were looking down from. And then….right by the ocean we saw a train going up the coast towards Santa Barabra…..we looked at eachother and immediatley thought of Zach…..there he goes…doing what he loves…on a sunny, beautiful day!
Hi
I know there’s nothing I could say, except God bless you, and gives you peace of heart and soul, some days ago, I listened, “in one or other way, we’re all connected somehow”, so it does not matter the distance, and everything, the pain is the same for all of us, God bless you; now we know there’s a new angel shining up above the sky.
Hi Frank, Jodie and Miles.
I’m listening to All you need is Love and I just read the message from the 26th from Cheryl. And I can relate to thinking I was going to have a really bad day giving it is the 27th and two months has passed since Zachary died. But several friends helped me through this difficult day. I felt love and all I needed was love.
I’m very happy for being able to share my thoughts and feelings with you today Frank on the phone. The Dali Lama’s perpective was very helpful I’m really glad that you and Jodie got to share that together. This morning John Lennon came on the radio singing “Christ you know it aint easy, You know how hard it can be” Isn’t that the truth. Here’s to complete enlightenment and some peace for you guys and me too. Hell for everyone who is effected by our loss of the most awsome Human Angel we knew Zachary Micheal Cruz. We’ll see him at the party, the party up in Heaven!
Love Mom. AKA Grandma Beverly
Driving Safety Tip: Focus, Get off the Phone and drive, take time to eat lunch rather than drive while eating. You diserve a lunch break and your food digest better if you relax a bit. Drive like each and every car around you has someone you love in it. Look at each person/pedestrian/soul/spirit/human being as if they are your best friend or most loved relitive.
Thanks Grandma Beverly
i was going to work today, dreading it, knowing i was about to have a horrible day.then right when i pulled into the parking lot a beatles song came on the radio.the first thing i thought about was zach.then i thought about his life and how i wanted to be like him. i shouldnt hate this day, i should enjoy this beautiful sunny day!and thats just what i did.he may not be physically here but he still inspires me.i just think, zach would have loved it today and he would live it to the fullest, and thats what i want to do.
Just a little note to let you know we’re still here, still thinking of Zach and of all of you daily. We hope you are all well, as you continue to grieve. Don’t hesitate to contact us, if you need anything, especially an attentive and loving ear or a ready shoulder.
Take care,
Love,
Diana, Chris, and Gabe.
To the parents of Zachary Cruz,
I drive past Zachary’s memorial every morning with my two small children. While we never had the chance to meet him, we miss him and mourn his passing each day. Our thoughts and love are with you and your beautiful boy.
His memory is bright.
dear frank and jodie,
i don’t know you, but i’ve come to this site a lot, and each time leave heart-broken, but also so moved by the love and thoughtfulness and courage put forward here.
i grew up not far from warring and derby; i know that spot so, so well… and i have two little ones, and i do hug them tighter these days… and i’m a social worker and see a lot of young people losing people to violence–and this site is a reminder to me of how to try to remember life in the face of death.
thank you for sharing this website with all of us who have been unspeakably saddened by this close-hitting trajedy, as well as so touched by your zachary, and you too, his remarkable parents.
with love,
natanya pearlman
I wish I could help make your pain go away. You’re all in my thoughts and in my prayers.
I love you guys and think of you often.
Aunt Lauren
perdonenme por escribir esto en espanol pero mi ingles es limitado, solo queria comentar algo bien curioso que me paso yo suelo ir a mi
trabajo por esa calle, pero un dia vi juguetes y globos articulos especiales para un pequeno nino. Si me conmovi profundamente; pero
segui mi camino desde ese dia cada que paso suelo conversar con zac
y le pido ahora que el es un angel que me cuide y proteja de todo mal e interceda con dios por mi hijo que encuentre un trabajo, pero no solo eso un dia pase y estaba lloviendo y especialmente le pedi que me acompanara en mi camino por el free way y efectivamente pieso que el me ayudo a salir ilesa de un fuerte accidente que iba destinado a mi y por eso le doy las gracias y creo siempre me acompana sin yo conocerlo lo siento asi. gracias.
forgive me for writing this in English but my Spanish is limited, I just wanted to comment something strange happened to me I go to my land work down the street, but one day I saw toy balloons and specialty items for a small child. If I was deeply moved, but follow my path since that happened each day talking with soil zac and I ask now that is an angel who protects me and takes care of all evil and intercede with God for my son to find a job, but not only that a day pass and was raining and especially asked him to accompany me on my way the free and effective way that the feet helped me emerge unscathed from an accident that was hard for me and so I thank you and I always accompany me without me knowing so sorry. thanks.
per Google Translate (Aunt L)
Children are treasures and it is clear by your heartfelt gratitude that you realized and fully embraced the joy of being parents. Zach was able to teach you so many things, but for those of us who didn’t know him, his story has taught us to cherish life and hug our kids a little tighter.
Barbara, I am so sorry to hear about your nephew. I cannot even begin to imagine what you and your family are going through. He seemed like such a lovable child and I am sure that he was a joy to anyone who came to know him. You and your family are in my prayers.
Dear Cruz Family,
My friend told me about this website a few weeks ago and I finally got up the courage to log on and check it out. I was the person driving the Prius right behind the truck driver and called 911. It was truly one of the most unfortunate tragedies I have ever witnessed. I am crying right now as I recollect the event and write this note to you. Please know that there were many caring and respectful people present in Zach’s last moments. I can’t imagine how difficult this must be. I offer up my prayers and support to all of Zach’s family. The only thing that brought me comfort on this tragic day was the thought of him happy in heaven and likely being taken care of by someone like my Mom. The real suffering is for those of us left here on earth.
My deepest and sincerest condolences,
Angela Soito
i was preparing tofu the other night and i thought of zach. i dont know how he ate it raw. i couldnt do it.
Thanks Cheryl,
This note made me laugh. Boy he would go after that tofu lake a tofu addict. Like it was the best thing ever.
Love Grandma Beverly:)
Dear Frank, Jodie, and the extended Cruz Family,
My sincerest condolences go out to you all as you grieve the loss of your son. The purity, passion, and joy that you spoke of about your son are revealed to all in his photographs, even to those who were not fortunate enough to know him first hand. I trust he is able to express those qualities in a much fuller and complete capacity than he was ever able to before on earth. Past what can be read about in books or gleaned from the words of others, I hope God’s voice can make itself known in your hearts in this difficult time, giving you the hope and assurance that is beyond understanding. I will ask the elders of my church to pray for you and I will be continually praying for you all as well.
Yours,
David Marrufo
Hi Frank,Jodie & Miles
We love you all. Our prayers and thoughts are with you. Our hearts still broken for all this tradegy but we are amaze of what a wonderful job you have done as a parents that was reflected in Zachy. You have a lots of people who cares and pray for you. Hope we can see you soon. We miss you.
Frank,
You, Zachary, your family and your friends are all in my prayers. There are no words. My older brother died almost 4 years ago and the pain experienced by my mother and father is indescribable. My mom recommended that I share with you a support group that helped/helps her. It’s called compassionate friends and they provide grief support after losing a child. You can find your local chapter on compassionatefriends.org. I hope you find some light in the love that surrounds you during this dark time.
With love and hopefulness,
Jenna Jue
My daughter and I drive past Warring and Derby every morning on our way to her school. Last week we drove by and noticed flowers and cards and toys and saw a website. I made a mental note to look at the website when I got to work, but every day I would forget. This morning I told my daughter to email me the website via text message on her phone, she did. I am now on your website in tears. I also have a son but he is 11 years old and I cannot image the pain you must be feeling right now. My heart goes out to you ten fold. Just know that Zach is in a better place and will ALWAYS remain in your hearts. My sincere condolences, may God bless you and your family.
Zachary was an amazing little boy. As a good friend of Barbara’s, I just wanted to let you know that you and your family are still in my daily thoughts and prayers.
To Zachary’s family:
Zachary’s aunt, Barbara, is a student of mine and I, myself, am the parent of a three year old, so I feel very close to your loss and seeing the site and wishes of everyone is so moving. I wanted to offer my condolences and peace to your family and love that extends on and on, in the hardest moments. My own mother was killed in a similar type of accident and I know that the waves of grief can sometimes be overwhelming. I hope that you will continue to find the support and love of friends and family close and far from you and that you will cherish and treasure all of the beautiful memories that you had with your precious son.
My heart is saddened to hear of your loss. It is hard to comprehend that a life so young was cut short but he lives on in your memories and in your hearts. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Hi Frank/Jodie Miles
I miss you a lot. Zach is fine were he is. I bet you a dollar Zach misses you a lot too:). I look forwerd too seeing you. Zach loved you more than anyone else I bet.I remeber Zach and I had a fight about the Beverly masage chair, Zach and I shared it. Wasen’t that a blast:).I love you Frank,Jodie and Miles. from:Ashlee:)
Hi Frank, Jodie and Miles Chris and Stacy too.:)
I was sittin here with Ashlee and thinking of this week-end when we are all gonna get together to finish Zachy’s Garden in the back yard. I wanted to share another story. It was the summer two years ago when I was watching Zach and your dad was working on the big garden that year. Zach and Tristin where in the back yard and we were playing star wars. I was princess Leah and your Dad was Darth Vader, Zach was Luke Skywalker, Tristin was OB One oh yea Chyenne (our Husky) was Chuwie Chabaka. We sword fought and the Force one over the Dark Side. It was a blast! But the funnist thing was when I went into the house to get something for someone out of the kitchen and the boys had drank my yummie Black Forrest drink from the Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf. (with an add shot) I think Eathan was here too. I remember getting upset because you know how I like my Coffee Bean but they all told the truth witch was to tell on each other but pointed out that they shared. Where was Darth Vader? I guess the caffine force was with them. You guys tried to get mad at me but this was nothing like the Sugar Cookie Scandal.
Love Ya Mom AKA Grandma Beverly
I was taking my daughter back to school when I saw the memorial site and my daughter told me what happen. I lost my first son 17 years ago, the pain will get better but the sweet memory left behind will linger on and it will help you to deal with the loss.
My heart goes out to you, and God will send you a comforter.
take heart
Jody & Frank
Just wanted you to know you guys are on our mind and thoughts , Oscar and I talk of Zach often he really made an impact on both of us !!! We were on top of a Volcano over looking the Hawaiian coastline yesterday and he came to mind in this peaceful place I go often. If you guys ever need an escape our Hawaii home is always open to you guys. I am happy I was able to be at the service it’s one little boy I will never forget, I had to call my Godson as soon as I left the church to let him know much I love him. I know you have plenty of love around you , but if you and Frank ever need anything we are here for you guys.
Much Love ,
Todd Campbell
Jody & Frank
Just want you guys to know our thoughts and prayers are still with you guys , little Zach has been on my mind since his funeral. Oscar and i talk about him quite often , he really left his mark on two people who never met him , If you guys need to get away ever our house in Hawaii is always open to you and your family anytime. Made me really look at life in a different way . Much love to you guys!!!
Todd Campbell
I drive by Zachary’s memorial every day on my way home. I am so sorry for your loss but hope the years he was with you stay bright forever. He would have made a wonderful Golden Bear.
I just wanted to say how very sorry I am for your loss. I can’t even begin to imagine how you feel. As a parent, my heart goes out to you. I will think good thoughts for you and your family and think of Zachary every time I drive through that intersection.
I don’t know you- but my mom happened upon this story online.I am so sorry for your loss- and know exactly what you are going through.My son’s name- Zachary Michael Strong, born october21/2000- angel date september 17/2007. Zachary was just over a month away from his seventh birthday.He was riding his bike, and was struck down by a dump truck,he died instantly.My Zachary also loved the Beatles, his favorite songs were “8 days a week” and “yellow submarine” . The park my son was heading to that day,was named in his memory”Zachary’s Place” and I see that a song was written for your son Zachary called “Zachary’s Place” by Nathan West.My son’s favorite drink was vanilla milk- he couldn’t get enough of it.The last picture my son drew was a rocket,just hours before his death.It was taking of,fire shooting out the bottom.My son also liked to watch Spongebob Squarepants.I see your sons teachers name was Ms.Gee, my nickname for Zachary was Gee. Seems both of our Zachary’s were very outgoing,very lovable,and had friends young and old. Zachary has a younger brother named Joshua- he will be 5 in June.He was the bestest big brother in the world!!I would always tell him.Once again ,I am so sorry for your loss, one day we will be reunited with our children. God Bless you all. Please feel free to contact me- hugs
We have very happy memories of our grandson Zach. He was a very inquisitive child who was very gracious and humble. He loved going to Dodger games with his parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. He accomplished a lot in his very short life. Thank you Jodie & Frank for sharing him with us. You are great parents and we are very proud of you!
Dear Zachary,
I love you.
Love,
Gabriel
Hopefully this isn’t a badly phrased letter, I write to let you know how much the memorial still affects those who you don’t know on a daily basis.
My deepest condolences for your loss, I meant to write sooner but I only just realized I had the names reversed. My wife & I drive by that location at least 2x/day to do p/u and d/o of my 5yr old & 7 yr old at their school on the other side of campus from us. Perhaps it’s that we’ve got kids the same age, but i still find myself turning the music off in the car as we approach the intersection, making sure we full-stop, then driving away slowly with 101 thoughts running through our heads.
Personally, i’m hindu, and believe in reincarnation. When one of my very close relatives died prematurely a few years back, a family member looked at me and said “don’t be too sad – knowing how much he liked to razz you, i wouldn’t be shocked if he was already reborn, just waiting to push your buttons yet again.”
Condolences again, and the next time you have his song running through your head, have faith that Zachary the angel might just be next to you humming a few bars along with you.
(btw, I look forward to seeing what new balloons or plants or (…) will be on the corner, I noticed the gold&blue ones today, those looked great.)
Joy; … I was just having similar thoughts about how, … as time goes by the comments will lesson … but the memory of Zachary will live on forever in the hearts and minds of so many people. I for one have been ‘ZACH’T’ in a big way … a Zach’ Attack!
‘Tomorrow Never Knows’ but I know that I will always know ‘A Day in the Life’ of Zachary. … I’ve spent many hours at the intersection of Derby and Warring these past weeks … & no, I can’t explain why I’m there … I just know I am supposed to be there when I’m there. I will continue as my time allows … just tell me when .. … … … … …… ….!
Beverly, Frank, Jodie, Chris, all Zachary’s Family … you are in my thoughts, in my heart, in these places … ‘In My Life.’
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rZ5N4-X_HWU
Hi Jonathan,
I found your comments very comforting, I’ve been home for a few days and being out of the helper mother mode has left me feeling extra sad.
Glad to know your there to do whatever it is you do.
Love Grandma Beverly
To Zachs Parents,
Thank you for sharing your son with me. We have never met in person, and I live in Southern California but I have had the fun of knowing your son and hearing about his wonderful imagination and joy of all things from my daughter. She works at the after school program and was on her way to work when she found out about the accident. Her heart was broken. I hear all the time about “her kids” and all the great things they do. And Zach was mentioned in many fun stories from cooking to Ghostbusters. When I saw Zachs picture, he looks just like I imagined him too! I want you to know he will always be a part of all of us. I will never hear “All You Need is Love” or watch ” Ghostbusters” without a smile and a thought of Zach. Thank you Zach for all the smiles and laughter.
Bruce would have told Zach he was a living God, and told him he liked his style and meant it.
The comments may slow down, but don’t worry. None of us have forgotten.
I came from Canada and saw the site of your loss driving past. I have worked in emergency services for 30 years and know there are simply no words. I have 3 sons and lived in constant terror of losing one, yours is real, I just can’t IMAGINE.
David
A few months ago I was walking to work in Berkeley. My route went right by Zachs school, La Conte, on Oregon St but we had never seen each other until this day. I was walking by the school, listening to my ipod and thinking about a stressful day ahead. As I neared the end of the playground I hear, “Chris! Chris!” I look around while taking my headphones off to find Zach against one side of the chainlink fence and me on the other. I put my hand through and gave him a high five and said hi. I was running later for work and I told him that I was going to have to get going, but to have fun and learn lots. But Zach protested. He asked another question about my work, or why I was going to work so late and many others. I must have stayed for 5 minutes or longer. Each time I tried to leave he would find another way to get me to stay. And I had a hard time telling him no about much of anything. When it was way past time for me to get to work I told him that, “for real, buddy, I’ve got to go.” He made a pouty face but I could tell he understood. I told him I loved him, told him I would see him soon, and finished walking to work.
As I walked away I didn’t put back on my headphones. I kept them off to hear what he said. When I walked away his friend asked if I was his dad. I could understand why they thought that… to fat beard-os hanging out with kids… come-on! But Zach told him, “no, that’s my friend Chris!” and ran off to play. And that’s the thing. I wasn’t his dads friend, I wasn’t his moms friend, I wasn’t uncle Chris, I wasn’t some creepy dude with a beard. I was his friend. We held hands and played legos on the floor and did science projects together on the weekends. I didn’t come up to his house to watch him or baby sit him, I came up to hang out with him. To play with him. To snuggle with him, to hold him.
After that day I never saw him on the playground again. I don’t know if he didn’t play near there anymore or if we just never caught each other at the right times. But I looked for him everyday on the way to work.
And I can’t express how sad I am about losing him. But while I am deeply hurt that he is gone, I can’t help but think of how lucky I am to have been given the chance by Frank and Jodie to be in his life. If I were Frank, I wouldn’t have allowed me near his child! But he did and he included me in his family as many of you have. So I want to thank you for that. Thank you.
As for Zach, its going to be a while before I can walk by your school again without hurting, but just know, dude, I’ll be looking for you through the fence.
From the moment I heard of this tragedy my heart has been filled with sorrow. I am tremendously sorry for your incredible loss. I have a 5 year old Zachary who plays Noll/Soll tball as well. Your family, and everybody involved has been in my thoughts and prayers. I hope that you find peace and know that your Zachary was and always will be a blessing to your lives.
Dear all,
I wrote something about helping children cope with death on my blog (http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/half_full/?p=767). Some parents have also left suggestions for good books, etc. there. Please add to the list if you’ve found something that was helpful for you and your children.
My heart and deep sympathy go out to all who have been touched by this terrible loss.
Christine
http://www.halffullblog.org
Please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of Zachary. By all accounts he was an extrodinary boy who touched so many lives. My thoughts and prayers are for you and for all of those who knew him. May the support of family, friends and the community help you through this difficult time.
I learned about Zach through Etsy. We don’t know each other – I don’t even live in the US. But your story reaches out to each of us, right into the heart of all of us. Everything extraneous just falls away, and we’re all together, bonded by love and sadness.
We all come close and hold hands. A tiny glimpse of something heavenly.
Today I drove through Berkeley and saw the flowers for Zachary. My heart pains for your loss. This intersection along with many others in Berkeley are dangerous. Problem is not just the drivers, bikers and adult pedestrians.
Everyone wants to get across town, no one wants to wait their turn.
I am sorry for Zachary, it’s not fair. Zachary is now there watching over his schoolmates.
Blessings and prayers.
I just found this out. I can’t believe it. I lived with Zach’s parent’s best friends for 6 months and had the pleasure of meeting and getting to know Zach. He was an amazing little boy who had such an intense presence. Just by looking at him you could see he was more connected and understanding of the world around him than the average 5-year-old. Tragedies like this make me so furious because we need all of the incredible people we can get in this world. I know Zach was and would have been an intelligent, curious, loving member of not only the community but the human race.
I send all of my love to his family and friends and hope with every ounce of my being that there is some peace for them after this horrible tragedy. I’m so sorry.
GOD BLESS….
I just wanted to say how sorry that I am hear about your families loss. I was touched since my 11 year old girl at the time was struck by a truck on the 11th of march also in a crosswalk. She just turned 12 yesterday. She is doing well, but when I read your story I knew that I had to help.
I am also from Etsy and that is where I heard about your story. I am so sorry to hear about it.
Zach – your beautiful story in the Chronicle today made me cry. You lived a joyous life and were obviously so incredibly loved by your family who must miss you more than words can express. My heart aches for them and I will keep them in my prayers. I know they will continue to feel the warmth of your love as they go on with their lives.
Even strangers are sorry to lose you.
How wonderful it must feel to know how loved and how special your little boy was to so many people. May your memories keep your heart whole. Zachary will be looking down and protecting his family for the rest of your lives. You have a special angel up there helping God with his work.
Zac, you and your parents are in our thoughts today …
I have driven by the intersection of Derby & Waring several times since February 27th and wondered what the flowers, ballons and other mementos were about, so wrote down this website url. I am just overwhelmingly sad for you and for your loss. March 12th is my father’s birthday, as well as three other children I know who are around Zach’s age. And I have two little 6 year old girls and cannot imagine life without either one of them. I am heartbroken for you and know that you will have hard times ahead as you deal with this huge loss, but also know that a whole host of people — strangers as well as those known to you — will be holding you in their hearts.
I also was wondering about the flowers and candles and today I saw the sign with Zachary’s name.
When my daughter was five, she crossed that intersection five days a week on the way from kindergarten to the after school program. I am sending you prayers and listening to Zachary’s favorite song.
When my daughter was about Zachary’s age, I was going through a terrible time in my life. We were driving home after a long day and my daughter was in her car seat in the back, and “Love is All You Need” came on the radio. When the song ended she said to me, very sincerely, “That’s true, Mama. Love is all you need.” I cried that day. I am crying for you now.
Love never dies.
Dear Family and Friends of Zachary,
My son is also a K2 kid and was with Zachary that afternoon.
What a loved and loving child.
The beauty and vibrancy of this website, the birthday image, the videos, the memorial that you have planned, the comments assembled here. . . are very moving and testimony to your depth and clarity of heart in finding profound affirmations of life even in the most painful times of loss.
We all grieve with you. We all celebrate Zachary’s wonderful and joyful spirit with you.
Austin, Jean, Alex and Jarrad
Thank you for being a kind,energetic and fun classmate! We all miss you and know you are still playing with us.
Please know that the entire community grieves with you in the loss of your beautiful boy. Do not doubt that he will be with you forever and will meet you someday again. I hope this tragedy serves as a wake up call to people in communities in every city. I was hit by a car in SF when I was 11 yrs old on my way home from school and broke both of my legs (car was speeding). My brother was hit by a car in SF and spent a year in the hospital with broken bones and skull and numerous surgeries (car was making a turn – attempted hit and run). I become extremely anxious when my or my kids walk on sidewalks and when we have to cross streets. Drivers be careful, children are hard to see! The City of Berkeley should take measures to make our busy intersections safer, particularly near schools. As we all know, thousands of people die every year in pedestrian accidents. Let’s not let Zachary, and the many other pedestrians who die each year, die in vain. We need crossing guards, we need safeguards, we need signs reminding drivers that pedestrians have the right of way, that children are in the area and to slow down, we need education for drivers and pedestrians and much more. I don’t even know you but my heart grieves for you and I pledge that will be there to support any measures taken to increase pedestrian safety in and around the East Bay and San Francisco.
I wish you Peace in this time of sadness.
I was walking a client’s dog past that intersection the other day and I saw the memorial to Zachary. That is my son’s name, too, and I lived in Ventura for several years. I cannot imagine the pain of your loss. It seems like you have a good many friends to comfort you and that’s so important now. I wish you Peace.
i was within hearing distance of the accident
and have not stopped sending love. Zach has
truly opened my heart.
this website brought tears to my eyes. i did not know zachary but from the responses i read he must have been an amazing child. i cannot even begin to imagine the pain you are going through, but i hope that you can take comfort in the fact that the world is a better place for zachary having been in it. so many people have shared how he has touched their lives. i have never met zachary but he has managed to change my life, if just a little. my heart goes out to you in this difficult time and you and zachary are in my prayers.
missing you today Zach – hope you got the greatest Legos for your birthday, wherever you are! xoxoxo
Even I don’t know you, I share the pain with you for this loss of your loved one. I pass through the intersection each day going to the campus and I can feel the pain that you are going through. It is difficult to accept the loss of this little angel.
Thoughts and Prayers.
Zach.. I love you. I will never forget what you told me. You’ll always be in my heart. Happy birthday little guy.
I am so so sorry for your loss. My nephew, Declan, goes to K-2 and he and I have passed Zachary’s memorial a number of times on our way home. We have stopped and talked about Zachary, left him sour grass bouquets, and sent him many kisses and much love. Reading through the comments here, all I can do is cry. I can’t begin to imagine the pain you are experiencing. No one should have to go through that. Your Zachary was a little being of light and love who brought so much joy to the world. He will be sorely missed. I hope that your days, while no doubt filled with grief, are also filled with grace and love and hope. You are ALL in our hearts and prayers, as is Zachary. We’ll donate what we can xo
All sales of this artwork shall be given to Zachary’s family. It is this event that brought about this artwork. It does not belong to me. It belongs to Zachary and his family.
http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=22213083
Please help in any way you can, one way or another!
Please donate and take an active part in a most needed healing process in any way you can.
Leave messages, support all that you can, help by all means, do what your heart tells you.
Lyse
Hi, I didn’t have the honor of knowing this great little guy but my prayers and heart goes out to his family. I work at Select Office Solutions and his name and pictures came up here. My prayers and condolences go out to you all!
Kyle
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ZACH!
I miss ya! I know you will always help me get home.
harold
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ZACH.
I LOVE YOU AND I MISS YOU.
I cry a little each day, and this beautiful website helps me do that.
Happy Birthday, Baby.
Love and Kisses
Auntie Lauren
So sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you at this time.
Everyone at K-2 wishes you a happy birthday, Zach.
My heart goes out to you!
HI Zach, This is Kamoni and I wanted u to know that u will never be forgotten. Your cubby is just right next to mine and Mrs GEE put your picture there for us never to forget u. I just wanted my Mom to thank you and your parents for giving me the chance to share apart of your life with you.
Never be forgotten;
Kamoni Youngblood
On this, another trip around the sun since his birth, may the stars and universe and all Mother Nature join in chorus of love.
What can an internet buddy do? I feel so helpless and only hope this tiny bit of electronic language reaches your heart with love.
I have 2 small children and cannot, absolutely cannot, imagine your life. One day before my own birthday, tomorrow, it makes it a tiny bit more personal to me.
Nina, fellow Etsyian and CCCOE’er
Happy birthday, Zach.
Our condolences and thoughts to Zach and his family.
My heart felt prayers go out to you and your family during this time. God must have needed a really special angel up there in Heaven and chose Zach. God bless you all and I’ll keep you in my prayers.
i am absolutely stunned to hear this story and heart broken for the family.
we’ll be sending loving kindness your way.
julee
So sorry for the loss of Zach… how terribly sad. I hope that his birthday party is full of friends celebrating his special day
Much love and condolences to you all xoxoxo from my little corner of England
I used to call Zach, The Zach Attack, after the show Saved By The Bell and the band all the characters started. I look back on that specifically and smile because it aged me in a positive way as a parent and kept Zach and the rest of the kids at Clark Kerr forever young, forever in kid’s shoes (sand included) and a voice to match. And I remember baseball caps. Zach wore baseball caps – he wore the Angles cap and Frank wore the Dodgers cap.
My wife Sarah looked toward Zach as an example, because he was a year older than our son Jude, and Sarah wanted Jude to carry himself the same way Zachary did.
I talked with Duncan a week ago and he talked about one of his students who was at the scene and he didn’t know her connection and she didn’t know his connection and he told me about our little community (UC childcare parents, kids, teachers, Family Housing) and how close that community is and how you forget how many are affected by Zachary’s loss. As part of the UC childcare parents, kids, Family Housing community; Zachary’s loss is deep, it goes down right to the bones and we can never compare our grief to Frank and Jodie’s, but I just want the two of you to know that Zachary has a place at the table.
When people ask about Zachary I quote Frank from the Daily Cal and I tell them that they need to know Zach was around, Zach was part of the university and part of the community. Damn right!
Last week I had a show at the Crossroads Room in the Village and a sound engineer recorded it. During the set, I played a song I wrote for Zach. The song is not a promotion of my music, it is a remembrance and tribute to Zachary and condolences to Frank and Jodie and Miles too. You can hear the song at:
myspace.com/nabruralfolk
The song is called ‘Zachary’s Place’…
Dear Frank Jr,
I will be going to opening days at Dodger Stadium… with my lil guy. I will be thinking of you guys and zachery on this day….
Christina Sperry & Family
Our family extends the most heartfelt condolences to the Cruz family in this difficult time. Zachary was one of our son Tai’s special classmates and friend who loved to play Ewok and other spontaneous games on the playground. Tai wakes up and asks if Zachary can play where he is now…he misses him deeply. We feel the loss and also remember the smiles and song and playful spirit, but also his desire to learn and work hard at his numbers — these are some of our memories, collectively, of Zach. We know Zachary’s spirit thrives, and we hold him close in a special place in our hearts, forever.
My wife and I are UC village residents who don’t know you or Zach but still feel the pain of his loss from our community. We mourn with you and will donate what we can to help.
My thoughts and prayers are with the family. So, sorry.
Frank, Jodi, Chris and Stacy,
I want so badly to stop the tears and make the hole in my heart heal.
If I’m feeling this horrible then I can’t imagine how all of you must feel.
Saturday, as I sat at Zachary’s service I watched you four in total amazement.
Your concern for all those around you, I have never felt such love under those circumstances. I realized at that moment that Zach was the boy he was because of you.
Yes, he had his own wonderful personality. He was smart, loving and what a wonderful laugh he had. But some of these things he learned from you. I truly believe that we learn by example, not just books or what we tell our children to do. Zach saw love, caring and kindness in his home. He had parents and friends who taught him how to express himself in a positive way, explore the world around him, to ask questions and find his answers.
I may not have had the privilege to spend a lot of time with Zach, but the time I did was wonderful. My life has been changed forever because of one Zachary Michael Cruz.
As I pray for my own answers, I will continue to pray that your hearts will be healed, and know that you are loved as much as Zach is. I will also continue to repeat the words each morning of his favorite song “All We Need Is Love”. I have found myself repeating those words several times during this past week. Thank you Frank and Jodi for sharing your son Zach with so many of us.
Prayers and thoughts.
What a precious little boy; my heart goes out to you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss, but he will always be with you in your memories. You must be so happy to have had him, his bright, bubbly self, even for just a little while…
My prayers are with you and your family. So sorry for your heartbreak…
We were so saddened to hear of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
I am so terribly sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. He looks like he was a wonderful boy. I know he will always be your soul’s companion.
There are no words. Please know that those of us in the Etsy community are thinking of you and praying for you and yours. We cannot pretend to understand the depth of your loss and pain, but I for one will pray fervently for God to provide care and comfort.
Our hearts break for you and your family. We wish we could give even more to help you guys. Our thoughts are with you…
Hannah and Mike Souza
How heart breaking. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Oh that poor baby. How heart breaking. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
My prayers are with you and your family! I just saw this on the news. I am so sorry
Kids really touch my heart and Zachary seemed like a very fun and amazing kid. I feel so much for your loss. I am studying to be a pediatrician. Zachary has really touched my heart.
I drove past the corner this evening and saw the tributes. What a beautiful child. He’s in my prayers, and so are you.
We hold all of you in the light of Healing Prayer and Love
Namaste,
MB in JTREE
Frank and Jodi,
I’m sure you dont remember me, since I believe I only met you guys a few times, but I just saw this website. I’m Chris and Stacys old roommate from Santa Barbara, and I am so incredibly saddened to hear about your loss. I dont know what to say other than I’m sorry. I cant imagine losing a little loved one like you have. You guys are in my thoughts and prayers.
Frank, Jodie, and Miles,
I am a stranger, but here I sit here at my desk at work, looking at pictures of my son Jake in his baseball and soccer uniforms, and my heart is broken for you. I can’t possibly find words to express my deepest sympathy and sorrow for the loss of your beautiful Zach. He is and will always be an angel. May blessings and comfort surround you. I am so sorry.
Laura Turnbull
I am so sorry for your terrible loss.
I’m saying prayers and sending healing energy to you, in the hope of lightening your sad burden just a little.
Blessings,
Chris
My thoughts and prayers extend to you and your family today. I know what it is like to lose a special person to tragic circumstance, and though it can be immensely difficult at times, it is all important to love and honor those who pass by celebrating all that they shared in their lifetime. Zach seems like a very special boy. Celebrate his spririt and rememberance every day.
Dear Jodie,
I am deeply sorry for your loss of your little boy. My heart goes out to you and your family. I hope your memories of him bring you comfort in knowing he is in a better place. God Bless you.
I just came across this in the Ventura newspaper and what an amazing son you were able to have. I don’t know you or your family, but Zach sounds completely inspiring and like a wonderful kid. I’m only 20, but I know I know I came across this page for a reason, and he really will be an inspiration for how I go about my day and not to take things for granted. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and friends.
Across The World Adoptions was honored to share a picnic with Zach back in September. We remember how he jumped right in, introduced himself to the other kids and played with joy and abandon as only a 5 year old can. Zach was an extraordinary boy who left an impression on everyone who was fortunate to be touched by him! Our hearts go out to his parents, Jodie and Frank and his other parents, our good friends, Stacy and Chris. Lesley Siegel
Oh what an awful tragedy. As a mother and a substitute teacher who loves all the kids my prayers go out to all of you who need comfort through GOD. Little Zach showed so many so much love in his short life on earth…..he will continue to live and be in GOD’s loving care and arms. I have made a donation and if there is anything else we can do please let us know.
Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times.
Love and prayers from our families in Alabama.
Julee
I read about the tragedy on Etsy through a forum and I am so sad for Zach’s family and friends and the ones who knew and loved him. What a special little boy that has touched so many lives in such a short time. GOD has him in his arms and he will never be forgotten. I will make a donation to help you in your time of need. We will ask many prayers of comfort and peace at this time. xoxo Julee
SO SO SORRY.:( He is gorgeous, you must have wonderful memories of him to keep you going…
Any Human to Another
The ills I sorrow at
Not me alone
Like an arrow,
Pierce to the marrow,
Through the fat
And past the bone.
Your grief and mine
Must intertwine
Like sea and river,
Be fused and mingle,
Diverse yet single,
Forever and forever.
Let no man be so proud
And confident,
To think he is allowed
A little tent
Pitched in a meadow
Of sun and shadow
All his little own.
Joy may be shy, unique,
Friendly to a few,
Sorrow never scorned to speak
To any who
Were false or true.
Your every grief
like a blade
Shining and unsheathed
Must strike me down.
Of bitter aloes wreathed,
My sorrow must be laid
On your head like a crown.
By: Countee Cullen
Frank and Jodie – Because I quite simply and honestly have no words of my own for this heartache, and I honor your precious, little guy.
Thank you to all who stopped by the Lemonade stand today! you helped raise 309.36. This money will go to the family to help with funeral expenses for Zachary Michael Cruz.
Dear Jody & Frank
Even though I never met Zach , After his service today he left his mark on my life , He was a special boy with a mind & personality that only most can dream of. You can tell that you were both great parents to him just by the love he gave to others. Jody you always had a great personality while working for us at Wok N South I was touched today by Zach and you both show in him. My heart goes out to you and Frank and you families.
Love
Todd Campbell
I learned about your little boy on the lampwork etc forum. I’m so sorry for your loss of our angel. I have a five-year old and my heart goes out to you.
The NOLL/SOLL Little League community honored your son today at Opening Day ceremony, and a moment of silence was observed. His spirit was present on this glorious day of sunshine and blue skies, and our prayers go out to your family as you deal with your incredible loss.
Dear Cruz Family,
I am so sorry for your loss! Although the days ahead will be hard try reach out to those who love and support you. I did not know Zach but he was obviously such an amazing child who was very loved. This says so much for you as parents. I found this poem that I hope you can find some peace in. I am sending you all my strength, thoughts and prayers.
Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.
Frank and Jodie: Our hearts and prayers are with you and your family. We would like you to know that your NollSoll Little League community will be honoring Zach’s life at our opening ceremony tomorrow–the same day as the service. We’ll be sharing memories of Zach.
I remember my story. There was a wait list of about 10 tball players. They were waiting for a coach. Then Zach and you, Frank came along. Zach became the youngest player in the league. You, a graduate student whom I persuaded to coach by saying “coaching Tball is a breeze.” I was desperate for a coach and you gave these kids a chance to get off the waitlist and play baseball.
I remember showing up for the team meeting at Bushrod–I had the Angels’ uniforms and equipment–and there were the Cruz’s. Frank, Jodie and Zach. I asked Zach if he was ready to play baseball–”Yes” was the answer.
It was a joy to run into the Angels last year.
May Zach’s memory be a blessing.
My heart just broke in two when I heard the terrible news of your son’s death. I’ve seen people literally all over the country that are stunned. May we thank the Lord for the life that Zachary lived, and I pray for Him to give you the strength to carry on in the coming weeks and months.
With Deepest Sympathies,
Zack Smith
Moraga, CA
I am so sorry to hear about this and Zachary was such a lovely boy. People should pay more attention to the traffic, especially drivers.
To the Cruz Family
May you feel the many thoughts and prayers that are with you at this time. Lean on the people around you. Let them be strong for you. That’s why God has given us people that care about us. May God bless and hold you.
One morning I dropped off Gabe to school, with my kid sister who was visiting from southern California, and as soon as we walked in, Zach called out from the breakfast table, “Gabriel I saved some Cheerios for you!!”
I will always see him like that – the bright, smiling kid who was
.. who was thoughtful and kind to those he cared about.
From Grants Pass Oregon, our family pray for comfort and peace for your family during this painful time. God is faithful in all things and he will carry you through this. My heart aches for your loss, I just can’t imagine what you are going through. What a beautiful boy! Have faith and hope that God will reunite you with your son again someday. God Bless your family.-Eva
Praying for you in your grief and also for his perfect and happy soul dancing in heaven.
May God comfort you and hold you all during this very sad time. I did not have the pleasure of knowing Zachary or his family, but as a mother, my heart aches for you. It seems that Zach lived his short life to the fullest and must have brought great joy to those who knew him and loved him.
The valley of your memories will forever be green for Zach has walked there.
God bless you all.
My prayers and heart go out to the parents, family, and all who were privledged enough to enter his all too brief life. I too am the parent of a child who died, unexpectedly… almost six years ago. It has changed me, and I still grieve and yearn to feel my baby, touch her, see and smell her. The grief process is ongoing. My faith in God and belief in Jesus Christ kept alive (barely), but it wasn’t until I started to attend bereavement groups like Hospice Parents Group and Compassionate Friends that I was able to feel genuinely comfortable, accepted, and began to heal. I know that Zach will be there to greet you, to eternal life and you will once again be reunited and FOREVER!
Your son is LOVE.
God Bless your angel.
May your family be blessed by the presence of God and may his Peace and Comfort carry you through until you see your sweet little one again.
This Tragedy has reached as far as Montana. We did not know this family personally but we, as parents, offer our condolences, thoughts and prayers to you as Zack’s survivors. May you all be comforted in this horrible time.
May God be with you and give you strength during this difficult time. My prayers are you.
We are truly saddened by this tragic loss. We don’t even know Zachary or his family, and they don’t know us. But we can only imagine the pain it’s caused. Our sincere thoughts go out to the Cruz family and their friends. We can only hope that this never again happens to anyone. Our prayers remain with you.
I’m am truly sorry for your loss, you have my heart felt condolences. Since I’ve learned of Zachary’s passing it has haunted my mind. I have a 3 yr old daughter and can not and do not want to even IMAGINE the pain you and heart ache you are feeling at this time. Your are in my prayers. R.I.P Zachary….God has another angel now and he will forever watch over you.
I just want to extend our deepest sympathies and love from the University Village (Family Student Housing)at UCB- I know that we have all heard and been affected by this.
I may not have known this beautiful spirit by name, but his affect on us is monumental. Every time I see this story- my heart cries for you both and for him.
I am so very sorry that this happened to you, and know that you all are loved and Zachary will always leave a place in our hearts.
To Zach’s family I offer you my sympathies and prayers. I cannot fathom the pain and grief you must be experencing. As a parent I am so saddened by this unspeakable tragedy. As a Berkeley native I am angry and outraged that our streets arent safe for young children to walk freely. I drive by the memorial daily and cry at the site of the memorial. This morning I too brought flowers and saw for the first time the pictures of this beautiful child who left us so suddenly. I have sleepless nights thinking about this. I am a complete stranger yet I feel as if he was one of my own. Please accept my donation,
rest in peace Zachary
Our family sends its heartfelt condolences for your loss. We were not fortunate enough to meet Zachary, but he was clearly a bright, wonderful and well loved little boy. We have small children ourselves and feel so deeply for your loss. Our prayers and tears are with you.
hey guys, john just told me about everything and i found this website. i feel horrible about it all. i think i spent more time with zach while he was still inside jodi at john’s suprise party, but i’ve seen tons of pictures and heard tons of stories. i wish there was something i could do. i would write a thousand chugga-riffs to undo it all if i could. miss you guys. everything will be all right. i’m just sayin’
-Bobby K / Jessica Lowe
Frank and Jodi, I just wanted to add (personally) how deeply sorry I am for your loss, and that you and Zach will be in my thoughts and prayers.
<3
We are holding your family in our thoughts and prayers. My little boy is also in Kindergarten at Le Conte. Although they were in different classrooms, he knew Zachary. He had just told me recently, very excitedly, while we read a bedtime story with a little boy named “Zack” in it that there was a Zach, a Zachary!, at his school. He told me that they played PowerRangers together, and that Zach was a friend.
May the love you shared grow stronger and help to sustain you during this time.
My husband and I have been heartsick since last Friday when we learned of the terrible tragedy. We live two blocks away from the Clark Kerr Campus,we never met Zach or any of the family but I don’t think I will ever forget what I have learned about this adorable child.
I hope that knowing how very pained even strangers are for Zach and for your whole family will give you some slight comfort in the days to come. We have donated in Zachary’s memory: May his memory be for a blessing.
We were leaving the city and took a side street to return home. We came upon the accident and we were saddened and heartbroken. Having 3 children and 4 grans, we feel your pain. Now heaven has it’s newest angel, ZACH.
I wish I had words or an explanation that would help you to make some kind of sense out of this tragedy. What I can tell you is that God loves you. And He loves your son. I pray for you that while this is so hard to understand, that you know how much your Father in Heaven loves you. That you cling to Him in this time of sorrow, and rejoice in knowing that you will be reunited with Zach one day. Rest in knowing that even though he is physically not with you now he is safe in Heaven, looking down and smiling having the time of his life. Cling to the Lord He alone will get you through this. It’s hard to understand right now why this would happen to such a precious little boy. But know this it is only the middle of His story and in the end you will see why He needed Zach. I think, He must have been short on precious angels.
My sincere and deepest sympathies are with you and your whole family. And my family will continue to hold you in prayer.
I am really really sorry I don’t know what it feels like to lose a child I’m only sixteen, but I can only imagine.I am really sad because I love kids I think that they bring such a joy and light to this world and I’m just deeply touched.From what I’ve read Zach must’ve been a happy little boy and a beautiful little spirit and I don’t doubt that.My heart goes out to you and you’re family.I will pray for you and little Zachary.I know that it must be very hard, but in time God will help you out and get you back on your feet, He loves you and now Zach is in good hands and looking over you.God bless:)
Deepest sympathy during your time of loss. Know that the grief you bare is not born alone. You can share it with us. We will help you carry it.
May God’s Angels of Mercy and Grace be with you now and always.
From a stranger..a mother who lost a daughter.
Zachary’s 3 year old cousin is remembering him in her own way today.
Caity: “Mommy, I want to go to the skating place and do the hokey pokey. Remember Zach-a-reeeee (as Caity says his name), aunt Jodie, and “unca” Frank went with us?”
me: “Yes I remember. Did you have fun with Zach?”
Caity: “Yes and I beed his friend!”
I did not know Zach, but I was crushed by a car when I was three and a half. My heart breaks for you.
I found this poem and wanted to add it to your site…
I’m Free
Don’t grieve for me, for now I’m free
I’m following the path God laid for me.
I took his hand when I heard him call
I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day
to laugh, to love, to work or play.
Tasks undone must stay that way
I found that peace at close of day.
If my parting has left a void
then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss,
ah, yes, these things I too will miss.
Be not burdened with time of sorrow
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My life’s been full, I’ve savored much,
good friends, good times,
a loved one’s touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all too brief,
don’t lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your hearts and share with me
God wanted me now:
He set me free.
You have my deepest heartfelt sympathy. Your family will be in my prayers
Dear sweet Zach I am so grateful I got to share in the wonder of your toddler years. I will always remember your constant smile & adorable giggle. I remember how Connie or I would lie snuggling with you for the longest time at nap. You would always fool us, lying still & pretending to be asleep & then bursting into giggles at how you had fooled us. You found wonder & enjoyment everywhere you looked. I remember how you loved the yellow plastic shopping cart and would busily load it full of whatever you could find but as soon as you heard the word “snack” you would drop everything and bring your charming smile to the table.Thank you Zach for all you gave to us.You are very much in my heart.
I had passed that corner for the last 22 years and will always think of Zachary from this day forward. I can’t even begin to know how you feel and am so sorry for your loss. I didn’t know him but I know that he is in a better place smiling down on his family and friends.
All We Need Is Love By: “Isa’s Dad”
Love
Makes the next day relevant
Trumps all intelligence
Flies freely
In the face of theory
Kisses it on the cheek and says
Have a beautiful day
Love
Turns the muted mind to rhythm
Heart beating a Beatles tune
“Hey Jude don’t make it bad. Take the sad songs and make it better”
Better then just the arrangement of letters
L
O
V
E
Take each monumental memory
Make it a majestic mountain of make believe
Make everyone
Everywhere
With every breath
Believe
That man made machinery
Can’t crush the God given spirit of Love
“I love you, I love you, I love you- That’s all I want to say”
That’s all I want to hear you say
That’s all I want to show
That’s all I want to know
This mantra molds me
Mourning to morning
Mending my broken belief in
Love
We are so sorry to hear of Zachary’s tragic passing, our hearts are broken for you and our thoughts are with you.
I am so sorry for your loss.
We don’t know each other, but I am so saddened and shaken by your loss. It hits very close to home, both because Frank and I share a department and because my daughter will be starting kindergarten in the fall. I can only imagine how heartbreaking it must be to lose such a beautiful little boy. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.
I heard this sad news on the radio and actually passed the site this morning on the way to work. As a father of two young children I cannot fathom the pain you are in right now.
Just be comforted by the fact that there are many many people out there right now that care…you are not alone. Fill the emptiness with the love of family, friends, and strangers that care for you! Reach out, and stay strong! Our thoughts are with you.
Although we did not have the pleasure of knowing Zachary, we feel much sadness about his passing. We hold Zachary and his family in our hearts and prayers.
God Bless,
The Gomez Family
I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
I just read the post about Zach. I don’t know you, am a dad myself, but I will have you deep in my heart. Please ask me if there is anything I can do to help you in this painful time.
Will Parks
We are so terribly sorry for your tragic loss. From our family to yours you will be in our hearts and prayers. Sending you blessings and love?
I am so sorry for your loss. Your story, and the support of your family and friends brought tears to my eyes.
I will keep your family in my thoughts.
I am yet another stranger, a mom, expressing my deepest sympathy.
I have not met your family but work in the neighborhood and also have a 5 year old son. I cannot imagine what you are going through. There are so many of us touched by your loss. Please accept my sincere condolences.
We live in Oakland and heard about this tragedy from others in the community. Please know that many of us that you have never met are thinking of your family in this difficult time and sending you our love.
Oh, My heart just stopped! I do understand partly what you are going through and I extend my hand and heart in support to you and your family. When we lost our grandson, People told me, God needed his preciousness more than we did. Somehow, I find that reassuring,now. 5 years ago I would have argued that.
God speed and may you find peace in such a tragic time.
SlcUniques Donor from my Etsy sales.
I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I have a son in Kindergarten at John Muir Elementary, and all the parents there with whom I have spoken are grieving this terrible event. I wish your family comfort and peace.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss and felt I needed to add my voice to the many here. The loss of a child is always the most shocking and hard to bear. I wish you good memories and strength to work through the grief.
All any of us can ever do is live each day as if it will be our last and squeeze as much joy, happiness and life out each day. From all the beautiful tributes here to you son, it looks like he lived his life to the full even though it has been tragically cut sort. Take comfort in that.
Dear Cruz family -
We’ve never met but I read about the tragic accident on Etsy. Words cannot express my sorrow for you. Please know that you are in many people’s prayers – those who know you and those you’ll never know. Please take care of one another.
I heard about this on the radio and through Jeff, I can’t think of anything to say but I feel really sad for you. You have always been a kind person to me and our band. Never thinking of yourself, but how to make things work for everyone. I have a sense that you are a strong person, and that you will stay strong through this. Frank, your a good man, and I can only begin to imagine how hard this is for you and your family.
I can only hope that you can find peace in your heart and that your boy will never be forgotten.
joseph (robotsoffury)
Dear Frank, Jodie, and Miles,
We haven’t met but I’m a graduate student in the English department. I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss. You and Zachary have been in my thoughts and in my heart. ~Swati
dear frank & jodie,
i personally did not know zach, but knew of him through stories and pictures of someone who loved him dearly. i’ve said several prayers and will keep praying for you and your family, that you may get through this and heal with time. i am so, so sorry for your loss.
-a.m.
Please accept my heartfelt condolences. I was never fortunate enough to meet Zachary, but I can only imagine what a charming, loving young man was coming into being because of you.
Your family is in my heart and prayers. Such a tragic loss is almost inconceivable to most of us — I can’t begin to know what you are going through and wish I could take away some of your pain. For it is your pain that in that grief space right now. I truly believe Zachary is happy and whole and with you still, only in another form. In those quiet, loving moments, I am sure you will feel his presence and his light and laughter. I wish for your hearts to heal and pray that you, too, will be happy and whole when you come through this, knowing Zachary is still a very important part of your family.
My love and prayers are with you all..
No words can express the grief I feel for you.I pray everyday for your strength to get through this un-imaginable tragedy.Even though Zach is not where we want him to be, I take sollace in knowing he is in heaven with Murmur, and Nana, the ones that touch our lives never leave they live on in our hearts so I know zach will live forever through all of the lives he touched. My prayers will always be with u.
lets make a Zachary Michael Cruz Law that makes it mandatory to put speed bumps at intersections near public schools and public facilities and at public roads. Where can I sign up?
We’re thinking of Zachary everywhere we go. And our hearts ache for him and for all of you. Finny is very sad and says to send his love and a tear Zachydoot and to you. I have so many memories of when we all started at ITC together. Of Zach’s sweet calm and excitement, of his little baby smiles and early steps. His big-guy-bike pride… I cannot even get it through my head that that beautiful boy isn’t here anymore. Much love to you from all of us.
We are so crushed by your precious Zachary’s death. My son showed me all the photos of you and your family on the walls at Leconte today, his writing and drawings. I am just so so sad for you. What a beautiful boy!
What a parents nightmare. Our hearts go out to you.
Dear Frank, Jodie, and Family,
Our deepest condolences to your tragic loss. We met Zachary when Benedict was at Clark Kerr in the younger group. Zachary has made quite an impression on me as a courteous and considerate young man. I can never forget him playing Gorilla in the graduation play. We watched the graduation video clip again as we said a prayer for little Zachary. We are blessed to have known him and will keep our memories of him deep in our hearts.
Dear Frank and Jodie,
We don’t know one another, but we have several friends in common. (I am a grad student parent in Comp Lit.) So many of us who you have never even met are grieving for your family’s tragic loss and are sending loving and healing thoughts your way. May the soul and spirit of your dear Zachary rest in your hearts and bring you comfort.
Sincerely,
Jamie DeAngelis
Dear Family of Zachary:
As a mom of a 5 year old boy, I am one of those complete strangers who felt my heart jump into my throat when I heard this news. I know the grief and loss you are experiencing is unspeakable. I sat in my car in the rain yesterday looking at the memorial and crying. I’ve enjoyed reading how he has touched so many, and I’m saddened that my son will never get to meet Zachary. We’ll build a Lego creation in Zachary’s honor. May you find some peace and cherish your memories.
You don’t know me, but I was a UCB family housing parent. I can’t fathom the devastation of losing one of my children. I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you.
Oh wow, I come back to this site whenever I’m thinking of Zach and all of you guys, and just now read this entry:
“…This morning at the memorial of flowers, candles and toys, I saw a beautiful sight. From one crosswalk, a father and young son (about 5 years old)approached the memorial walking hand in hand. Approaching the memorial from the other crosswalk was the neighborhood mailman, a black man (about 30 or so). As they met at the intersection, in front of the memorial, they came together and joined hands, the 3 of them, with their heads bowed in silent prayer. A beautiful moment and it exemplifies the words of Zachary’s favorite song, All you Need Is Love. — Mary Anne Clark says: March 3, 2009 at 10:51 am”
This was Gabe and Chris, who visited the memorial for the second time in two days this morning. Gabe had something else he wanted to put there for Zach.
I didn’t even know about it until now because Chris is still at work. When I read that entry, I asked Gabe, and he told me all about it.
The whole community really is here, all grieving together, for beautiful, wonderful Zachary.
I am so sorry for your tragic loss. My heart absolutely breaks for you. I am also a parent, and losing my child is one of the worse fears I have ever had. I can not imagine what you must be going through right now. Please accept my deepest condolences and heartfelt sympathy for little Zachary. He is in Heaven with God and His angels now.
I am so sorry for you and your family. I have three children and I just don’t know what to say. I almost lost my daughter once to drowning and I was so lucky. Children mean so much. I never thought I could love the way I love them and the way I know you love Zach. I’ll pray for you tonight.
Cruz Family,
My prayers go out to you in this time of need. May the memory of Zach live on.
I am so sorry for your loss. I know that no words will ever help to heal or replace what is missing in your life and your heart. No parent should ever outlive their child. I can not begin to imagine the pain you are going thru. I hope that some day you are able to find peace. I will keep your family in my prayers.
Jodie & Frank:
I am truly sorry for your loss and although I cannot possibly imagine what you are going through at the moment, I have been mourning your loss and thinking of you both. During the few interactions I had with Zach, I learned what a great kid he was – super funny, intelligent, and so sweet. I know that you have a great support system around you at the moment, but please let me know if there is anything I can do for either of you during this time.
Chris & Stacy:
I know that you are busy doing everything in your powers to be supportive at the moment and I wanted to tell you both that you are also in my thoughts. Please keep up the great work, love, and support.
Love you all!
I am so sorry about the loss of your beautiful son. My heart aches for you even though I only know of you and your family from Etsy. Please accept love and prayers from me, a complete stranger. My deepest sympathy.
Frank — we at UCSB just heard the awful news of Zachary’s death. I am so, so sorry that this has happened to your family. I hope there are many people around you now that you can lean on for support in your grief.
Your family has been in my thoughts since the tragedy and my heart goes out to you. As a parent of two young children, I can only imagine the pain and sorrow you are feeling. My deepest condolences…
You will always be in my life, thank you for showing me and everyone you met how life should be lived.
Frank & Jodie
The members of First Baptist Church Queen City, TX would like to express our sympathy in the loss of your son. Norene & Leonard Perkins are 2 of our very faithful members and have informed us of Zachary’s death. Please know that we as a church will continue to pray for God’s peace to encompass your family and to fill your emptiness with His love.
Zachary was a very beautiful child….and this is such a tragic loss for your family. He has such soulful eyes. I am so upset today after reading about this senseless event. May you have the strength to deal with all of this. Life is so unfair.
Dear Familia Cruz
On behalf of the Ethnic Studies Department,at UCB we send you our deepest sympathy. There are no words as others have said, but the support of all around you will help you heal and remember all the joys that your son brought to your life.
I’m sorry for your deep loss. May G-d give you the strength and courage to be.
I am a customer of Jennifer’s (PineBlossoms). I want to offer my deepest feelings and prayers for your family. This is a tragedy, but you are so blessed to have such a supportive community and family around you to help you right now. You are in my thoughts.
Dear Frank, Jodie and Miles,
I only spent time with Zach on five different occasions (not counting all the great phone calls we shared) and they were such special, loving, memorable occasions. Your grandpa and I talked many times about you and Jodie’s child-rearing abilities. He and I were and are still both so very proud of you for all your accomplishments, not the least of which include your amazing parenting skills.
Zachary will be sorely missed and always will have a special place in my heart. Call me anytime, day or night if you want or need to talk. You are all in my prayers, and always will be.
Love,
Grandma Philhower
P.S. I think Zach and your Grandpa are busy remodeling heaven for all of us.
Frank, Jodie, Miles, and everone that Zach loved and loved him,
I have been trying to figure out just what to say but in the end, i know that there are no words that can be said. I will always remember Zach as the intelligent, articulat, creative, outgoing, musical little man that he was. I will treasure the times that I was fortunate enough to spend with him. The time you guys came over for the BBQ at my mom’s house when miles was still brewing in Jodie’s belly, and he drew with dry erase markers on the refridgerator. The Ugly Holiday sweater party when he proudly snatched up that keyboard after it being stolen twice!! It was always so amazing how he was able to hang with adults- and after reading everyone’s stories, apparently he was able to hang with everyone. What a kindred spirit! I am so lucky to have known him! You guys did a great job.
The social worker in me wants to tell you about an organization that my family went to after my dad passed away: http://www.ebac.org/programs/circle/index.asp
He will live on in our hearts and in our stories. Keep telling them.
Please let me know if you need anything. Anytime.
Much much much much much much love,
Cameron
Dear Frank and Jodie,
We can’t imagine the feeling of loss you must be going through. We can only hope that you may find solace in the love and beautiful memories you hold of Zachary. Our family has also experienced the loss of a young child due to cancer and we continue to struggle to make sense of his passing. It may help you to know that we have relied upon each other and found that the love of family and friends, as well as the memories, provide continuous hope and ease the pain with the passing of time
Our hearts and prayers go out to you in this most difficult time.
Sincerely,
Miguel and Laura Saldana
May God wraps his loving arms around you and your family in this heartbreaking time and comfort you. Your family in my thoughts and prayers.
I am very touched by the loss of this beautiful child. On my way to and from work everyday, I pass the intersection where he lost his life and my heart weeps for you, his parents and family. I want you to know that all the campus community grieves with you, whether or not we know you personally.
This morning at the memorial of flowers, candles and toys, I saw a beautiful sight. From one crosswalk, a father and young son (about 5 years old)approached the memorial walking hand in hand. Approaching the memorial from the other crosswalk was the neighborhood mailman, a black man (about 30 or so). As they met at the intersection, in front of the memorial, they came together and joined hands, the 3 of them, with their heads bowed in silent prayer. A beautiful moment and it exemplifies the words of Zachary’s favorite song, All you Need Is Love.
Frank and Jodie,
I know sometimes it seems like there are no answers. It seems as if these circumstances could not possibly have befallen a more undeserving family. Yet, you took nothing for granted about every amazing and beautiful aspect of your son, and in that you have great strength.
I am so sorry that you will now have to rely on a strength within yourselves that most of us will never have to imagine. Please take courage in the fact that Zach was a happy and enthusiastic little boy who loved and was loved. Because love is all around, and love really is all you need.
I am so sorry for your loss. You have not left my thoughts since I heard the news. I wish there were words to express my sympathy for the loss of such a beautiful life. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help.
Your friend,
Heather Bachan
Terribly sorry for your loss. We all have you in our prayers.
This beautiful little boy will never be forgotten. My haert is broken today.
My condolences go out to you and your family. I can’t imagine what it would be like to be at school or work and get that phone call. I have a daughter at home and one due in a month.
Why was someone not holding his hand? Obviously there were teachers present but no one will say how many.
Among other emotions, I am furious that this happened. I hope you sue them all to hell.
This diamond of a morning
i lay my head down on my pillow.
And in silence sealed, I made a wish:
To always hear the phrase of what you knew
To celebrate my crimson tears
To find solace for my grief
in the yellow dawn’s full bloom
that bares your memory.
Gina Brooks
This beautiful little boy will never be forgotten.
My daughter, Julia, in 2nd grade, was at Clark Kerr a couple years before your beautiful son. I am so sorry for your loss.
Our condolences, your Smyth-Fernawald neighbors from Apt 11F.
Fatima and Oscar
Dear Frankie, Jodie and Miles
There is no greater loss than a child. No parent should ever outlive their child. I am so sorry for your loss. It just angers me that, that sweet innocent little boy is gone and is should and could have been prevented. He was an adorable, sweet, polite and smart little boy. My prayers and love are with you in this time of need. I love you all.
To the parents and family of Zach…I know there aren’t any soothing words but time will ease the pain. my thoughts and prayers are with you all to get through this difficult time.
Words cannot express the tragedy of this loss; Zach was a kind, smart, hilarious and beautiful boy. I am thankful for the times at Chris and Stacy’s house – flipping Zach over the couch and playing “where is Zach?” while I held him upside down and he laughed that amazing and infectious laugh. He was so proud of his mom and dad and would often tell me how his dad was “a really cool music guy” (Frank you truly are)amdist telling me elaborate and delightful backstories on what we were going to pretend next. That show at Stanford was my favorite; Zach and I ran around for hours playing “Easter Egg Hunt” with Zach being the egg that I needed (and loved) to find. We are all better people for having known Zachary Michael Cruz.
Zach- I love you and I will always “hunt” for you.
Hello, I am the sister of Amber Felts who you worked with at Blue Moon in Ventura. She told me of this tragedy yesterday on the phone. You and I were pregnant around the exact same time. I remember Amber telling me about your pregnancy back then. My daughter Abigail is in kindergarten now. It is always so hard for me to put her on the bus and put her in God’s hands everyday. Our family is lifting you up in prayer daily for the continued healing and strength you need now. You are so loved, all of you. Your boy is living in the light all the time now and it is so beautiful there. One day you’ll join him and what a party it will be. Until then, stay together, lean on your helpers here on earth, and most of all cry out to God, He’s big enough to take it. Bonnie in Ohio
You’re right Frank – It shouldn’t take a tragedy like this for people to reach out to their neighbors and care about what happens in their community.
BERKELEY – smile and say hello, hold a door open, make eye contact, hold a hand – and STOP TWICE, for Zachary.
Serafina was at Clark Kerr preschool with Zach two years ago.
We remember him as a sweet, loving and cuddly child. I still cannot believe this has happened. We think of you all and wish you strength and love to go through this.
Santi’s comment about the sweater party made me smile because I do remember how gracious Zachary was when he had to give away the keyboard, and how excited he was to recieve it, he inherited that from his dad of course (Zachary would have been all about keyboards). My constant thoughts and prayers are with you Frank and Jodie, life is strange and full of questions, but you have much love and support all around you.
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, Love leaves a memory no one can steal.
May God hold you in His arms and heal you with His Love.
Frank, I know that the love for your son burned strong in everything about you from the way you lit up when talking about fatherhood to our class last year and from the times we have chatted since. His presence on this earth touched so many more people than just the ones who knew him personally because of that love. You, Jodie and Miles are in all of our hearts and prayers.
My kids are my greatest joy, and losing them is my greatest fear.
Please accept my deapest sympathy.
I am deeply sorry for your loss, I keep remebering you in my prayers.
and I ask God to give you patience and strengh.
Your Neighbours at Smyth Fernwald,and a parent for Le Conte school Kindergarten student.
You do not know me. I am a mother of 2 children here in Berkeley and I lost a very ill 8 year old daughter 2 years ago. I am impressed by how many people are moved to act when something this profound occurs. It’s the most devastating loss and everyone knows it. Use all the support you need, for as long as you need! We all need each other. I am so sorry you are going through this! He will always be a part of you!
To my friends Frank and Jodie —
Thank you for letting me be a part of Zach’s life, however small. I will always treasure our moments playing Star Wars Legos in your living room, and “letting” him beat me in a footrace at Miles’ baby shower. He was by far the coolest five-year-old I have ever known; more kids should have their own vinyl collections at that age. If I ever have a child, I hope I can do half as good a job raising him or her as you did of raising Zach. Know that none of that was in vain.
Peace and love,
Emily
Dear Frank and Jodie,
Our daughter, Isabel is also a kindergartner in the K2 program. She has told us that Zack was a good friend to her. She enjoyed playing legos with him and she was particularly impressed with his prowess at thumb-wrestling. She misses him very much.
We’re heartbroken by the loss of your beautiful boy and the pain you are going through, and we hope that you’ll feel free to call on us should you need anything.
James and Naomi Garza
Frank, Jodie, and Miles, I’m holding you in the light.
To Zachary’s family –
I do not know you and I didn’t know your son, but I read about the tragic accident online. I am so, so deeply sorry for your loss. I’m a teacher and a parent of 4. I know there are no words to ease your pain, but I hope you are able to someday have comfort from the wonderful memories you have of your son. Please take care of yourselves. You are in many people’s thoughts and prayers.
Monica May
Zach, we love you. We thank you for sharing your smile, your sweetness, your imagination, your love for sports and your friendship with us. I personally thank you for the excitement in your voice each time you had something “cool” to tell me. I will forever hear, “Hey, Barbara” echoing in my thoughts. And Jalia thanks you for your laughter, your companionship, the great times the two of you shared in Dramatic Play, over at Clark Kerr, and just for being who you were. You can never and will never be replaced in our lives and your impact and presence here will never be forgotten.
Frank and Jodie, my heart, my love and my prayers are with you. I can not express what I felt today when I learned the news and I can’t even express what I am feeling now. I was absolutely crushed and saddened and it took me a while to come to terms with the knowledge, the realization that the wonderful little boy that we’d reunited with in Apple a couple of weeks ago was the same boy that we’d now lost. Please know how much your son meant to me, to Jalia and how much we have been touched and changed by both this news, but also by being blessed enough to have known and been friends of Zach.
Again, our hearts, our love and our prayers are with you.
As a mother and student parent, I send heartfelt prayers — and a financial contribution.
God bless you all.
Dear Frank,
I remember vividly you describing fatherhood to me, a new father, in glowing vibrant terms in our class together last year. Please remember that you will always be a father, though memories are no consolation at all for what has been taken away. Your family is in the prays of mine. May you have the strength you need to find meaning for life and the love you will always feel.
What a beautiful face I have found in this place
That is circling all round the sun what a beautiful
Dream that could flash on the screen in a blink of
An eye and be gone from me soft and sweet let
Me hold it close and keep it here with me
Aeroplane Over the Sea
Neutral Milk Hotel
It is hard to put into words the deep sadness and sorrow we feel about the loss of Zachery. Our son Erik is a Kindergartner at K-2. When I asked Erik about Zachery (he calls him Cruz) he shared about all the fun he, Isa, Alex, and “Cruz” had playing Star Wars and Ghostbusters at K-2. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. All we need is love….
Love and Blessings,
Hans, Pam, Erik and Elena
My thoughts and Mandi’s are with you. We’ve been so distraught to hear this and can’t imagine what you must be going through. I don’t know how we could ever help, but if we can please don’t hesitate to let us know — any way, any time.
With sympathies,
Blaine (formerly 17J)
Zachary has been on our mind for the last few days. Today at Clark Kerr pre-school during circle time
we shared many wonderful memories of Zachary. We asked Seiyuan after we got home what he wanted
to say to Zachary and his family. This is what he said: “I love you silly, please don’t be sad. Please don’t
be sad remembering him. Your friend Seiyuan.”
Frank and Jodie,
I love you so much, words can not express how sorry i am to you for your loss. your family is in my thoughts.
all my love,
Theresa
“Take me home with you so that me and Gabriel can play together,” Zach would say sometimes when my husband went to pick up Gabe.
“No Zach, I think that would be kidnapping.”
“No it wouldn’t. My dad knows already,” and flash his signature Zach grin.
He was so funny and clever.
TO; Zachary & His Family:
Words are terribly insufficient at this time but we will try. Julia is mother to Ella & Pepukai & I am step-father to both. Zachary was one of Ella’s best friends at Clark Kerr & his memory will live on. I drop off & pickup Ella every other week & I always remarked at how happy all the children seemed to be, at how nurturing the teachers were, how they all seemed to comprise a big happy family. The wider family grieves at the immediate loss & mourns the greater future loss. With strength & courage, you will emerge strong & happy once more. But it will take the passage of time & also the knowledge that you still have a young child who needs & loves you & whom you need & love all the more. Our hearts go out to you.
PEACE & LOVE
ILAN & JULA & ELLA & PEPUKAI
Dearest Frank,Jodie, Miles and extended family and loved ones:
We are all deeply saddened by this unimaginable loss. Many of us will look for ways to let you know that you have a “community” that will work to support you upon your return from Ventura. There is no one who knows you or becomes aware of what happened to Zach that is not touched and moved by sorrow. Thank you for sharing your son with us through picturs and memories. Please know you will be in many of our daily prayers and thoughts. Our hearts ache for you all.
Jodie and Frank,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you. We suffer your grief and the anguish of such a loss. We feel so helpless that we cannot comfort you. Please remember that we are here for you and look forward to the day that life can start again.
Dear Cruz Family,
I am truly sorry for your loss. Your son is gorgeous, and although life is extremely difficult right now, and no one can answer why such things occur, especially to those as young as your son, just know that you are not alone. I send to you and your family warmth, comfort, love, and most of all support and sympathy. I will keep you in my prayers.
To the Cruz Family,
The entire community of Berkeley is so very sorry for you loss. Our family sends its deepest sympathy to you during this difficult time. And we are honored to make a humble donation in Zachary’s memory.
I am not usually a very emotional person, but your loss has touched me greatly. I have a son who is almost 2 years old and I can not begin to imagine the pain and hurt you must be feeling. I don’t think any words would be able to begin to describe them. All I can say is that I hope you know that there are many people out there who share your pain and our thoughts are with you.
My thoughts and prayers are with your family. From tragedy comes great things. God has a plan and your sweet boy is now watching over us all.
Words cannot describe this tragedy and your loss. May Almighty God bless his soul and bestow fortitude on you all.
Accept our sincere condolences.
Neighbours at Smyth Fernwald
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Although I did not know Zach, I know that he was very much loved and talked about through Matt and Joel. I will be thinking of you often during this tragic time. My deepest sympathies…
Frank & Jodi,
I was very moved and saddened when I heard of the death of your son Zach. I’m sure you must feel a numbness and pain that cannot be described. Unfortunetly I know that feeling because my 20 year old son Ryan was killed in a motorcycle accident in May 2007. The only thing I can say at a time like this is to hold on to all of your family and friends, they are the ones that can hold you up at a time like this. You’ll need all of their strength. Try to take care of yourselves in this most difficult time.
Jim Holt
I am so incredibly saddened hearing about Zachary. Being a teacher myself, and a mom of a kindergarten student, my heart pains for Zachary and his family. My students (at Willard) have talked about it all day today and are at a loss of how to come to terms with it. I told them to think positive thoughts for Zachary and his family, and to spend time with their own families and treasure what they have. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Dearest Family of Zachary,
Just seeing Zachary’s warm smiling picture tells me that he will always be a beautifully remembered child and that he will be missed by so many. Words are too simple to imagine the depth of your pain and loss of such a dearly loved child; please know that my heart and prayers are with you and your family for many years to come. Truly Zachary lives on in your heart and in the hearts of many in our community. Please accept my continued prayers and strength to see you through this very sad time.
Beatriz
Berkeley School Board Director & grandparent of a kindergartener
words can not discribe the way I feel today , as a mother I always prayed that my day comes before any of my children’s day . It is so sad to lose your little one so soon ,however you need to remember that your family has a little angel in heaven . May God be with during this difficult time
My heart goes out to you. I am the mother of Andrew, a child in the same K2 classroom as Zach. We will not forget the joys that Zach brought to those who knew him. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and family.
As a UC Berkeley grad student, my heart goes out to you both for the loss of your son. I am so sorry that this happened, and I hope you are able to heal your hearts someday. You are in my thoughts.
With love,
Jessica
I have learned many lessons from Zachary: how to be gentle and kind, how to be at ease with myself, as he was equally comfortable around children and adults; how to be a good person–the kind of person that people want to be around. There are many.
I have spoken to the family several times since Friday, and each time I have felt blessed and honored to talk to them, hear their precious memories, and be in a position to maybe be a source of healing and comfort. I feel honored to be their friend.
And this is how I felt with Zachary–honored to have his time and affection.
May we be blessed to continue to learn life lessons from his many memories, and the strong presence that he now occupies in each and every one who knew him.
May he intervene on our humble behalf, and sent strength and guidance to comfort us.
Baruch Dayan HaEmemt.
Dearest Cruz Family,
I am so sorry for your incredible loss. My son attended the after school program at Clark Kerr Campus, and made that walk many, many times. It is such a shock to read of your loss.
I am very, very sad at the lost life of your beautiful son (the pictures are wonderful) who, from what I am reading was so full of life and all that it had to offer him. I have no words that can even begin to take away the grief you suffer, but I do offer my deepest sympathy. I am so very, very sorry.
Dear Frank & Jodie Cruz
All the Le Conte Parents in kindergarten with Zachary were attended (Mrs Gee classroom) we feel so much sadness and sorrow for this loss….today in the classroom the parents and the kids we started the day ,thinking, praying and crying for your precious son….we really enjoyed all the moments we shared with him….my son Edwin Amaya was deeply sad about his friend….we just wanna say ,you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers….we miss him a lot….our last adventure was last Tuesday february 24th when 5 parents went with Mrs. Gee and the kids to the Tilden Park….I remember he was so happy to discover a lot of things that day….always your son will be remembered like the smart, happy and cute boy that he was….
God give you peace, comfort and strength in this moment..
Jodie and Frank,
Words cannot describe the pain we feel for you. At church yesterday I was shown a talk that was given at a 2 year old’s funeral. To sum it up:
It is not fair that parents lose a child. They must have been such wonderful spirits that the Lord would not have them to suffer in this wicked world. That these time are rough and it will not be easy. And you may ask..will you see your child again..yes you will.
Cherie said that at least he has only the BEST of memories.
He must have. He was truly loved. This will be hard but I know you will pull through and Zach will not be forgotten.
My mom told me one time (before she passed) that a person doesn’t truly leave so long as someone always keeps them in their heart. There are several hearts that Zachary will forever live in. My prayers are with you always.
Your Cousin,
Katrina
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I’m sorry; i don’t think that there are really words to meet this sort of tragedy, especially since we’ve never met, but I just wanted to express my condolences.
I am deeply sorry for your loss. Be strong. I wish you peace and faith. May God be with you.
Alicia
Rosa Parks Elementary
Jodie and Frank, May God give you some sort of peace in all of this.
We love ya
Bill and Lorrie
Our hearts and thoughts are with you and your family, feeling deeply for your profound loss. Our son Alex (now 4th grade at Emerson) was at K2 last year, so we probably didn’t meet each other. But you will all stay in our thoughts for a very long time. Please know that many many people out here in the community are thinking of you…
Sincerely, Amelie Mel de Fontenay, John Stenzel, and Alexander Stenzel
Dear Frank…
I am so devastated about your loss upon hearing about this tragedy. First I heard about the accident, and my heart hurt for the parents and teachers and students, and so forth. THEN, I realized that it was your child, Frank, and I’ve just been aching. Please know that people are sending so much love and strength. Much love, emily gleason
Dear Frank and family,
I am very sorry for your loss of your little boy. He was a bright and shining star, and while his time here was short, he did touch many lives. It grieves my heart to see this tragedy happen to your family and know that my thoughts are with you. I wish that I could be there for the memorial, but know that my heart is there in spirit and my ear is always here should you need it.
With love and sincere sympathy,
Jenn Weaver
“Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.”
~Eskimo Proverb~
Sending you love…
I am the mother of a dual-immersion kindergarten student at Le Conte.
I am so grieved by this loss and send you many prayers and love.
If there is anything we can do to help please do not hesitate to call. I am sending the message to my greater community to make donations to this site.
Sharing in your grief….
Anya and Naryan
My son, Finn, is a kindergardener who started in the K2 program last November. On that first uneasy day, your son made a special effort to reach out to Finn and show him around the Legos, talk Storm-troopers and make him smile. Zachary’s kind gestures were, in essence, my first impression of the K2 program and immediately put to rest any anxieties I’d had about starting this new venture.
It was easy to see that your son was a very special boy; confident, at ease, brimming with personality and light.
Our thoughts are with you at this difficult time.
Jody Horn, Dawn Thomas and Family
Frank and Family-
Jorge just sent me the link to your son’s memorial web page. I am so, so sorry to hear of your tragic loss. I can only imagine what an amazing, brilliant and kind little boy Zach was. My prayers and thoughts of strength are with you and your family.
~Larissa
My son is at Emerson and made that walk to K2 hundreds of times last year. I am haunted by your loss and want to add my voice to the chorus of grief and condolences. Even recognizing that no words suffice here, please be assured there are many many people of this community who are sending you strength and support.
Jodie and Frank,
I am heartbroken for you and your families. You are wonderful people and wonderful parents. I remember when you told us you were pregnant with Zach. We were so surprised. He was an amazing kid. He brought you and Frank together as a family. That is a beautiful thing! He will be dearly missed. Know that we are all here for you. Much love to you all.
I am a UC Berkeley employee, you are in my heart and in my prayers. I’m sorry for your lost.
Michelle Valdez
Healing prayers to your family. I do not know Zach but I read his favorites. What a wonderful and beautiful soul.
Vic Tripathy
Our family sends all of you our love, strength, courage, and support to face the days ahead. Zach is loved by all of us and will always hold a very special place in Geronimo’s heart. We have so many terrific memories of him that will stay with us always. Geronimo will forever save the transformer that Zack gave him last year. He sees it as his permanent link to Zach. Just know that you are wonderful parents and that you have the support of your family, friends, and community. We love you much!
Dear Frank,
I work at UC Berkeley. I read the Daily Cal during lunch today and discovered this tragic news. I was beside myself when you mentioned him reading a little book to you. I hope this does give you comfort and that you will always, always hear his voice. Although I don’t know you and your family – pleae except my deepest sorrow for your loss. Zachary’s photo on this website is beautiful & he seemed like an “old soul”. The love is always there – it never leaves. You will always know where your little boy is and that is forever in your heart. Take care of yourself.
Frank (and family),
There really are no words….I am just so sorry for your loss….
As you engage in “the process of coming to accept the unacceptable” our thoughts and prayers are with you.
The very kind folks at Corstone in Sausalito offer free support services for processing grief and loss. I can not recommend them enough to help you
http://www.corstone.org/html/index.cfm
Amber
I am so sorry for your devastating loss. I’m wishing you strength.
A SWIRL OF STARS
for Zachary Michael Cruz
When I woke,
the dream world was still there,
a little bit -
a swirl of stars in the ceiling.
I blinked, and it was still there -
a hole in the fabric
of the fiction we call reality.
Dying people see it, and
mystics, and babies, I think.
Imperfectly woken, I caught it
before the boss mind
pulled the curtain closed:
A place of infinity
where everything is visible
and present
and possible.
– Barbara Quick
To Frank and Jodie,
My heart goes out to you both! When I was told about Zachary, I just cried!!! Zachary and my daughter, Alexis were classmates and friends in Ms. Gee’s class. I remember him singing songs when he put his speed racer backpack in his cubbie and wearing his LA Dogers hat and all you could see was his cute face under his hat. I saw him that Friday and I remember him smiling as he and the other children sat on the floor waiting for dismissal. Zachary said bye “Nancy” with the other children and that image is still in my mind. We will all miss Zachary!! My family is praying for your family. We love You and all the Parents in Ms. Gee’s class feel the same!! If you need anything we all are here for you both!!
Nancy Brown
Our son, Jeroen, is a first grader at K2. I asked him what he thought Zachary most liked and he said he liked people more than anything.
We’re all so shattered by your loss, so can’t really imagine how you are feeling. We’re so deeply sorry for Zachary’s death.
We wish you peace.
Erica
I know your pain. My Zach was killed in a car accident shortly before his 16th birthday almost 19 years ago. I still think about Zach every day, more with joy than pain as time goes on. If/when it would help to talk, I hope you will contact me.
Dear Frank and Jodie, I’m holding Zach, and you and Miles, with me, just sending love as you go through this. Sue Schweik
Dear Jodie and Frank,
I did not know your son, but I feel tremendous grief at his loss. My four year old goes to the UC Berkeley preschool program that your son attended. Your loss has touched many of us, and I want to extend my heart felt sympathy.
Many prayers of healing and hope for you and your family.
Crystal
Dear Frank and Jodie, this is Avilev’s father. We are saddened beyond words to hear the news. Zachary was one of the sweetest boys I’ve ever met. Avilev adored him and admired him as the “older” boy. As a parent I was so grateful that Avilev had Zach as a role model for what big boys are like. We are devastated.
We are with you in our hearts during this sad sad time,
Ofer, Ana, and Avilev.
Jodie and Frank,
All of the families at Clark-Kerr Preschool are grieving with you, especially the children and families that knew sweet Zachary personally. We cannot imagine your pain and heartbreak, and our own hearts are broken alongside you. It is simply an unthinkable loss, and we are flooded with tears alongside you. Zachary will never be forgotten, and you are deeply in our hearts.
~Ana, Avi’s mom
Frank and Jodie,
We are devastated after knowing this sad news. No words can express our sadness and there are no proper words we can think of to comfort you. Zach was one of my favorite kids back to the days in Clark Kerr. He is wonderful. One day Zach and a few of us saw that another kid spilled a cup of water and the water dripped off from the table to the floor. “It’s gravity,” Zach shouted out. That was outside the one million sentences I could think of for that occasion. Zach made everybody happy that morning.
The joy and smile Zach has brought us will last. He will always be deeply missed.
Our condolences,
Linus, Liz and Mimi Chuang
Andrea always remembers Zachary when we pass by the pizzeria on Solano Ave. because she thought you, Frank and Jodie, owned Zachary’s Pizza. I also remember that we found out about Codornices Park, one of our favorite spots in Berkeley, when we celebrated Zachary’s birthday there. Thus, this weekend we will play some baseball and eat a Zachary’s pizza at Codornices Park in his memory. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Love,
Karla and Andrea
Your son has a beautiful smile and angelic face and the eyes of a soul wise beyond his years. I lost my bother in a heartbeat; he, too, departed suddenly and too early. Though losing one’s child cannot be felt in the same way by others I can empathize with your hopes and dreams taking new direction. Zachary will continue to be loved by all and remembered – his place in our hearts is secure.
– John Muir School parent of 2 -
Frank and Jodie,
my heart just sank hearing of this unbelievable loss. Zach was truly an amazing kid, and always a joy to be around. my heart goes out to you both and to Zach’s extended family that includes Chris, Stacey, and so many others
xoxo,
maiya
Frank & Jodie,
Our immense condolences on your tragic loss. The thoughts of the entire NOLL/SOLL community are with you, and if there’s anything we can do to help you through please let us know.
My Dearest Frank & Jodie,
Our deepest sympathy for your unimaginable loss.Our hearts, thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family.
Love,
Mike & Dana & family
My deepest condolences to your family. I am a Berkeley resident who drives through that intersection everyday on my way to and from work. The warning has been heard, I will take extra caution from this tragedy. I am devestated to learn about your loss. Zach was a precious human soul, charismatic and loved. His memory will live on, your community supports you in this incredibly trying time.
Blessings of peace, love and healing.
Laurel
Our family is part of the LeConte Community. We are horrified and saddened by this tragedy and it has weighed heavily on our hearts these days.
I have scheduled a memorial service for Zachary at Berkeley Zen Center on early Tuesday morning. The congregation there will chant a blessing and dedicate it to the peace of Zachary and his family.
My heart goes out to you and your family and I will pray for you and your family and friends who have been touched by the loss of your son.
I’m so very sorry about your loss. Zachary is a Beautiful young man. I wish much strength for your family. Remember that you have so people around you that Love you and are ready to help you bear through this. I send you my thoughts and Love. Antonio
Frank & Jodie,
You two were the blessed recipients of 5 full years as parents to such a precious and happy son. I can only imagine the sense of loss that you feel today and my prayer is that, with time, you will find an equal measure of Joy at the gift that those 5 years were to your lives. I echo Carolyn’s offer that, if there is anything that we can do to help, PLEASE let us know. Love you both!
David & Carolyn
Jodie and Frank, I am so sorry. I am a friend of your grandmother’s from Milford. I feel as though I know the family. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Dee
Dear Jodie and Frank,
My wife Brooke and I heard the tragic news while we were out of town, and though we don’t know you or Zachary we were deeply saddened to hear of this tragedy. I can only imagine how emotionally devastating this must be. As somebody wrote previously, your grief is shared by many and while this can’t possibly relieve your sorrow, maybe it helps in some small way. From the previous comments it’s clear that Zachary was a wonderful boy and that he had many frends. I hope you will find solace in their love and support. May you find a way to get through this.
Dear Jodie and Frank,
Little Zachary did not live in vain. He is a part of you and everyone he has known. I am so sorry and I pray for peace and strength for you.
Kathe
Jodie, Frank and Miles,
You are constantly in my thoughts. I feel so lucky to have known bright, talented, warm, wonderful Zachary and please please please let me know if there is anything at all that I can do to help from over here.
All my love,
Colleen
I’m a psychology grad student at Cal and worked as a consultant for two years at Clark Kerr preschool with Zach and the other children. Such a wonderful, articulate, sweet, and compassionate boy! It was so fun to watch him grow into a real leader as one of the “big kids” at the school and I vividly remember the kindness and support he would often show for younger kids who were struggling or who were a little bit different. Zach had an emotional core that was astonishingly sweet and remarkably refined for such a young child and I so enjoyed getting to know him over those years. Frank, seeing you drop Zach off so many times, it was plainly clear how strong your love was for your sweet son. My heart is absolutely broken to hear this terrible news and I pray that mom and dad are getting all the support in the world. Zach was so special and you are all in my thoughts. Be well.
Tate Guelzow
Dear Frank and Jodie,
It’s so difficult to know what to say about such a tragic loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this very difficult time. You’re not alone.
Lots of love,
Catherine
Frank and Jodie… my thoughts have been with you and your family since the moment I heard of the news. I am the cooking teacher at Le Conte “Chef Brenna”, and Zachary was a student of mine. There are no words for what happened and how you must be suffering. Zachary was a wonderful child, bright and curious, always willing to enjoy new foods when he came to cooking class. Everyone at Le Conte sends you love and will never forget your son. I’m hoping it’s ok to post pictures, I took these just last week when his class came to cooking. He’s acting out a short story with some classmates, where they are pulling a giant turnip out of the ground. Zachary is playing the roll of the Grandfather, the first in the family to ask for help to pull the vegetable from the ground.
My blessings and love are with you all,
~Brenna
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To Zachary’s family,
I am so sorry for your loss. I only knew Zachary by name from working at the ECEP office but I was deeply saddened by what happened. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and to those who are affected by this. May he rest in peace and may you find peace within your hearts.
-Elise
My prayers are with you and your family as you bear up under this trial. May the Lord be pleased to draw you near to Himself during this time and begin to the process of filling the void with His abundant mercies and gracious lovingkindness.
Frank and Jodie:
We can all say without pause that the world was a better place because he was in it. You have so much to be proud of…
I am so sorry, Frank. Zachary brought so much joy to your life and it is clear how deeply he will be missed. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Wishing you strength and peace,
Aimee
Driving is a privilege not a right, being in a crosswalk and having the right of way means that we drivers have to get our heads out of the clouds and into the responsibility of driving. Please focus and understand that a vehicle can be a deadly weapon. A fragile human body vs vehicle can and did have deadly results for my little grandson Zachary. Please slow down and look. Thank you Zachy Pooh.
Dear Zachary’s Family,
I’m terribly sorry for your loss. I woke up this morning and read in the paper what happened, and I felt overwhelming sympathy for you all. I’m a student at UCB and though I have never met you or Zachary, you have a place in my heart and in my prayers.
~Dani
Jodie and Frank,
I feel at a loss of words to know what to say. My heart is heavy for your loss. I pray God gives you strength and comfort daily. Zachary was such a wonderful boy and he was blessed with you both as loving parents. I’m so glad we got to meet him at the family reunion. He was such a cute and sweet boy even then. Take care and I’ll continue to keep you in my prayers.
Julie Rasmussen
Jodie & Frank, I am Isa’s Nana & I live in Arizona, but my heart is broken, again. I lost my grandaughter, Reese, tragically 7 years ago (3/6/02)and the grief came flooding back to me when I heard the news about your Zachary. Keep sharing the good stories about Zachary to keep him close to your heart & I hope, one day that you will find Zachary’s smile to put on your face & share it with his baby brother, Miles. My thoughts & prayers are with you. Jill
…every time I try to start writing this, I can’t stop crying. everything gets blurry. Your boy is so beautiful. I wish I had the strength you have, Frank. Sometimes it takes everything just to stand up. Beautiful.
As your healing continues, know one thing: you are not alone. This loss is not yours alone to bear. Don’t ever feel that any of the time you spent raising and caring for Zachary are vanished because they are not. Everything that you gave to him came through to us, and we are all the better for it. So please know that his life and memory stand for so much more, and that NONE of your efforts have gone in vain. You gave us that little guy and he has taught us well. Now that his work is done, he must move on–so must we.
may peace be with you,
Frank,Jodie,Miles.
I have not stopped thinking about you since I heard the news. I cannot find words to express my feelings, I am so so sorry, and nothing I say will make it any better. Take it a day at a time, a minute at a time, go get Miles, hold him and see that he needs you, feel his love and be comforted by it. We will have you in our thoughts and prayers. with much love, Kathy and Sean
Frank and Jodie,
I have no words to express my sorrow at your loss of Zachary. I have been thinking and praying for you all weekend. I pray that you feel God’s love and comfort at this time. I have so enjoyed reading about Zachary and would have loved to have been able to really meet him at a family reunion and get to know what a neat kid he was. I know you are so proud of him and I know you will always cherish your memories with him. Please know we will continue to lift you up in prayer daily.
Doyle and Debbie Banks
I am so sorry for your loss and I WILL keep you all in my prayers……May god be with you in your time of need…..
sorry for your loss, may god be with you.
I found this just now, of the exact memory I told you about. I don’t know if this site allows html from comments, but it’s worth a shot!
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To Zachary’s Family,
My deepest condolences go out to all of you. I am a student at UC Berkeley and a volunteer at LeConte Elementary. I have been working with Ms. Gee’s class since about September, so I was fortunate to know Zachary. He was so intelligent and unbelievably creative, and always had a smile on his face. I am still in disbelief and can’t even begin to imagine what you all must be going through. He will always have a special place in my heart; he will truly be missed.
Sincerely,
Mari Raya
Jodie and Frank,
I am so sorry, there are no words. My love and prayes go out to you and your family.
-Julianna
Frank and Jodie,
I’m so deeply saddened to hear about your loss. I still remember baby-sitting for Zach, back when he was less than 2 years old. Even then, I knew he was beautiful and beloved.
Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. Zach will be deeply missed.
Frank and Jodie,
My heart goes out to you both. I’m tremendously sorry for your loss.
Gabe loves Zach so much, and has always considered him one of his best friends.
We just found out and we’re very much still in shock. Gabe lays sleeping nearby and tomorrow we’ll have a long talk to him about what happened. . .
One of my most vivid memories of Zach was one day last Spring, when I went to pick up Gabe from school. Zach, Mimi, and Gabe were playing super heros together. Gabe was on the ground pretending to be a spider, Mimi had a jacket tied around her neck like a cape, and Zach was on top of one of those plastic play structures. The three of them were having such fun. At the time, Gabe was still the “new kid” and I was so gratified to see that he had made friends. I was so very grateful to hear the stories of his daily adventures with Zach. And because Zach was older, I always felt that he was guiding Gabe in a way.
We are deeply saddened by the loss of Zachary. We love him very much and he will be missed. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Condolences,
Gabe, Diana, and Chris
Dear Jodie and Frank,
My husband, Elliot, and I are so sorry for your loss. We have a 4 year old, Maya, at Clark-Kerr this year. We just can’t imagine how difficult this is, and we can’t believe how tragic and unfair life is. Although we don’t know you, and didn’t know Zachary, you’re all we’ve been thinking about.
I am sure that Zachary and Maya would have been fast friends and that we would have shared many play-dates. We wish you all the strength in the world to make it through this.
Sincerely,
Elise and Elliot
My deepest sympathies to you. There are no words that could possibly offer you the comfort that you must need. I am a Berkeley School parent with children at John Muir and Willard. We are all part of the same community, same school community. I hope that you can sense the caring embrace of many in this community as you endure the difficult times ahead. You will remain in my prayers.
To Zachary’s family,
I want you to know that I am so touched by reading about the joy that your son brought to so many, and I grieve for your loss. As a BUSD parent of 2 boys and a UC Berkeley Graduate student as well, I feel that you are close in my community. I hope for the memories of your wonderful son to help to sustain you. While I did not have the fortune of knowing your son, I will hold him in my heart.
With love,
Kim
Sometimes when God really loves someone, he calls them back early. May god rest his soul in peace and give his family the courage to fight this time of sorrow.
I have not been able to stop thinking about your family all weekend, and I will continue to hold Zachary in my thoughts every time I look at my own Kindergartner. Zachary was obviously precious and made a tremendous impression on the world in his short time here. We all — even those of us who don’t know you — are sending you our love and support.
I remember the ugly sweater party and it makes me smile. Zach was bummed that the keyboard got nabbed from you, Frank, and he was bummed to hand it over to Chris. But he was so good about it. At 5 he possessed social graces. I smiled seeing it then and I’ll smile when I think of him.
Love,
Santi.
Dear parents of Zachary,
I’m deeply sorry for your loss. I’ve heard about the story a little after I was involved myself in car accident that very same day. The policeman there told me to be careful with my daughter who is 4. He told me about a little kid who was 5… I now realize it was yours and, as a parent, I can only tell you how sorry I am for your loss.
My thoughts go out with your family…
Geraldine
Frank, Jodie & Miles,
We are so sorry to hear about your loss.. We were looking forward to this summer when hopefully Adler & Zachary could meet and play together.There aren’t words to express how sorry we are about your loss of such a special little boy!
Children are special in so many ways and i think that they teach us sometimes more than we teach them.Hearing all the great stories that Grandma Beverly had to tell us each time we talked about something new that Zach had done or said. Zach was such a happy & smart boy and showed how truly loved he was and how much he loved his family.And what a proud BIG brother!
He will be missed but NEVER forgotten.
Love,
The Shelton’s
Danny, Brittny, Adler, Teagan, Aryiana, & Takoda
Our family is stunned and saddened by this terrible loss, and our hearts go out to “Coach Frank” and his family. I know that all of us who played t-ball with Zachary last season have you in our thoughts and prayers. I hope that the embrace of family and community holds you through this time of shock and grieving, and will continue to hold you for as long as it’s needed.
i am so sorry for your loss.
my son (aidin) and i have been crying all weekend. through tears aidin said, “i lost my best friend”. i’m sure many children feel that zachary was their best friend.
i have no words to express how sorry i am at the pain you must be living. an immense tragedy that no parent should have ever had to go through.
with much love,
Vera
We are so saddened by your loss. We miss you Zach!!!!!
You’ll always be in our hearts.
Dear Jodie, Frank and Miles: You have been in my prayers, thoughts and actions since Friday. Please realize how much we will all miss your precious little son remembering his goodness, innocence and his love for you. You have an angel very close to you-for ever! I am a Guest “Sub” Teacher at Le Conte and being with children daily is such a blessing and a gift. I know that your little one leaves an empty place in the hearts of our school family. You can be certain we are all holding you close in our thoughts and are sending you our deepest love as we grieve with you and your dear family. We will continue to remember Zachary as we hum his favorite song and his message that “all we need is Love.”
There are days when it seems that life doesn’t make sense. Days like these. We are so very sorry for your loss. We are sorry that you as his family and those around him who loved him are hurting beyond understanding and will miss him so very much. Please know that he is safe and sound, back in Jesus’ arms… Never again will he cry. Never again will he hurt. Joy will be all he ever knows from this moment forward. And while it may seem that you’ll simply die from the grief, know that God will never allow more on us than we can handle. Sometimes He lets us go to the very edge where we think we may never survive, but He knows our limits so much more than we do. Love Him. Trust Him. Lean on Him. He’ll use those around you who love you to circle you up in their arms. We’re praying for you.
I’m a student living at Clark Kerr (who loves the Beatles and baseball more than anything) and I would like you to know that I will have Zach in mind when I have my own five year old someday.
you are all in my heart, thoughts and prayers.
Dear Zachary’s mommy and daddy,
I am Wendy’s daughter and I know Barbara and Jeremy. I am very sorry for your loss…I really wish I had the chance to meet Zachary. It would have been nice to play with Jeremy and Zachary. I know Zachary is in a better place now.
Love,
Sara(9 years old.)
I came upon the scene from above, as a traffic reporter.
Always difficult to report on such tragedy, when I found out later that it involved a little boy, Zachary, I felt/feel so very,very sad. I am so sorry for your loss of such sweetness.
I have told you this already today, but I can’t say it enough. Zach was one year ahead of Jude at Clark Kerr, and I used to tell Nate that I hoped Jude would act like Zach when he was that age. Jude idolized Zach… he would always come home talking about him in that awed way that little ones do. Not three minutes has passed this entire weekend that I haven’t thought of all of you… and especially of Zach. Our love and prayers to you…
Dear Frank and Jodie,
As a close friend of your cousin Barbara, and being a parent myself, I can not help but feel a profound sense of sadness at the loss of your precious little boy. Although, I never had the privilege of meeting Zachary for myself, I heard countless stories of the joy he brought into your family’s life. It is my hope, along with the rest of my family that you make it through this tragedy knowing that this is not goodbye-and that one day you will all be okay and together again. Our prayers and thoughts are with you, your family, your friends, and of course with your dear sweet Zachary. Heaven has another little angel.
With Love and Our Greatest Condolences,
Wendy, Frank, and Sara
I am so sorry for your loss. As a LeConte parent, Smyth-Fernwald resident, and as a mother, I share your immense loss and sadness. I cannot imagine how difficult and trying these times must be for you and your family. May the prayers and love that surround you, help you through these difficult times. Heaven has a new angel to remind us that the world needs love!
I am so sorry to hear about Zachary. He was my 3rd cousin and even though I never got to meet him I am sure he was an angel. I wish to express my sincere sympathy to your family, and I know Zachary is in heaven with Mom she will take care of him and guide him.
Love You all,
Jean
Our son Edwin was Zachary’s friend and classmate in kindergarten in Le Conte School, always we will remember him like a smart,sweet and happy boy…I never forget the day I went to help Mrs.GEE (their teacher) and we went to recess and he asked me : Do you like be my coach? I liked football….and I answer : sure.!!…and we played..after that he said: Thanks Letty you are a cool mom…..
Our prayers go out with you and your family…
we are so deeply sorry for your loss….
Frank and Jodie, we wish you the strength, peace you need now
We enjoyed knowing Zach, it was fun to watch him play with the other kids outside, he was a classic 5 year old, active, friendly, and imaginative. Our deepest condolences.
Andy, Zilose, & Tama
(neighbors)
Jodie and Frank, Miles and Zach, you’re in my thoughts and prayers.
We are incredibly sorry to hear about your tragedy. Zach was an incredibly sweet kid. We wish you the strength to get through this.
Hi Frank,
This is Regina from ED190. Ratha let us know about the loss of your son. I just want to let you and the family know that my prayers are with you at this time. This IS a great song to remember Zach by because God is Love and God is all you need. In this difficult time, I trust that He will strengthen you and send people to assist emotionally and monetarily beyond your need.
In Love,
Regina
I live just down the hill with my two young boys at Smyth. I don’t believe I had ever met Zachary personally, but I grieve along with you just knowing that we have lost one of our little community’s precious children. My 8 year old son Rawley sometimes plays up the hill with many of the kids from J building and remembers Zachary. He wanted me to express just how saddened he is for your family’s loss–you are all in all of our thoughts and prayers.
Our son, Wesley, was also at Clark Kerr, a year behind Zachary. We are so sad for your family. I was one of the many who went to leave flowers yesterday and cried with a woman, a neighbor of Waring and Derby, who talked about Zachary. How full of life he was… how so very happy.
All of us, especially parents of 4-6 year olds, really feel for your family.
May Zachary find much peace and joy with the angels in heaven.
Mark, Jon and Wesley Bain
We would have loved for Zachary to be on our sons tball team and we are so saddened to hear what happened to your sweet baby boy. We send our love, prayers and many hugs your way. I really cant say enough for how sorry we are for your loss.
Frankie…..
My love and prayers are with you!!!! I am so so so sad to hear this….I will offer a mass prayer for Zachary here in Taiwan this weekend….
Love and miss you guys
Erick
Eddie and I were sorry to hear about your lose. Our prayers are with Zach and his family.
So deeply sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to you and your family.
I only met Zachary for a short time while helping Barb move in. He was a sweet little boy. He will be missed. Frank and Jodie, I’m so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Zachary was a extraordinary, energetic and playful child with a heart as big as a mountain. He could make you laugh at the silly things in life with his enormous sense of humor. His smile and bear hugs were priceless. He was an exuberant child who was more than happy to express his feelings. When he was excited he would get so elevated that he could jump up to the moon and touch it and get back down in time to enjoy the fun. He will be missed desperately because my heart will have an empty spot, that will miss having him come and ask what I’m doing each day, whats for snack and and whats the plan for the day.
I will miss Frank and Miles and sharing about what was going
on in Zacks life and the loving relationship that Zach had with dad and baby bother.
My love and prayers are with the whole family words can’t say enough for your loss.
No parent should suffer the death of their child, especially one as bright and beautiful as Zachary was. Your sorrow is ours too. Our thoughts are with you. Here’s hoping you find some small comfort in the love and support of your family and friends.
You are in our thoughts and prayers. We are all here for you to help you get through this. You were blessed with a beautiful child, always remember the many smiles and the love he brought to your lives and never let that go.. He will be missed.. my deepest sympathy to the Cruz family.
Zachary was one of my bright young kindergarten students. He knew so much about his world around him. He was always proud to say what he knew and when it was not his turn, he would say, “Aw I was going to say that.” There were times Zachary knew when he did a good job on his class work, but wanted a little confirmation by saying, “ I did a good job, right?” After receiving a positive answer, he would say, “Alright!” and go merrily off to an activity that he has chosen to do.
He was a sweet, caring little boy and I can still hear him ask a classmate when they had hurt themselves, saying, “Are you alright?” I found it was very touching. Zachary liked being engaged playing with other children, whether it be a ball game, a game of chase or a creative game of pretending to be one of the “Star Wars” characters. One of his favorite pastime things to do in the room was be on the computer, if not that, he chooses to draw, or build creatively with blocks, or play with toy cars and toy animals, or play in the playhouse. He was certainly creative in his play!
Who would know that after putting Zachary on the bus to his afterschool care program, would be the last time I would see him. I’m blessed to have known him for even a short while, but he has touched us with his smile, with his friendship, with his warmth and humor. I will always remember him coming into the room with a Beattles’ shirt on and surprising me with singing parts of the Beattles’ song, “All I Need Is Love.” I had to ask him, being as young as he was, “Do you know The Beattles?” and he remarked, “ Yes, I like the Beattles,” and went on singing.
This song will always remind me Zachary, he chosen a very nice song to like, because we all need love.
My sincere condolence goes out to his wonderful supportive parents,
Frank and Jodie.
Loosing a child is one of the most painful things that can happen to a family. The pain never completely goes away but will ease a bit with time. My heart goes out to the entire family.
To the Cruz family, please know that your neighbors, too, are grieving with you. You have our thoughts, prayers, and all of our love.
As a Berkeley resident who lost one of my best friends to a car-pedestrian accident at age 5, I am thinking of your family at this time.
My love, my saving grace,
your eyes are awfully blue.
I kiss your funny face,
your coffee-flavored mouth.
Last night I slept with you.
Today I love you so
how can I bear to go
(as soon I must, I know)
to bed with ugly death
in that cold, filthy place,
to sleep there without you,
without the easy breath
and nightlong, limblong warmth
I’ve grown accustomed to?
–Nobody wants to die;
tell me it is a lie!
But no, I know it’s true.
It’s just the common case;
there’s nothing one can do.
My love, my saving grace,
your eyes are awfully blue
early and instant blue.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and all those who loved Zach. Zach will forever be in our hearts. If you need anything, we are here for you.
Such a beautiful little boy. I know words can not express the depth of pain over the loss of sweet Zachary. I am moved to tears.
Zachary and his family and friends are in my heart.
May you find peace.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I pray that the beautiful memories of your precious son will somehow sustain you. You are not alone. We all mourn with you.
I just heard about this yesterday, and I was deeply saddened. My son went to Clark Kerr pre-school, but he came there the year after Zachary had left for Kindergarten. However, I remember Zach well, because the day that all the kids from Gerton went up to Clark Kerr for picture day, Zach was in a suit jacket and his hair was all slicked down; he looked like a little professor and it was so cute. I also know Zach’s dad as a part of team efforts to stem the cuts to ECEP childcare. Frank, you worked so hard to fight for all Berkeley parents and their children to have access to childcare, thank you. I am so sorry for your loss, but I will take your advice about loving my son so much more today than ever before. I will remember to always truly and fully appreciate every moment that we have together.
Wishing you and your family all the best during these very difficult times,
~Christyna Serrano (Caelan’s Mommy)
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
I’ve been in prayer for your family all weekend, ever since I heard the sad news. I pray for peace, comfort, rest, and someday- forgiveness and understanding. My sunday school class had special prayer for you also.
I am holding my own family just a little bit closer today…
My son is a UC Berkeley student who lives on Warring Street. He called me right after the accident, in tears over the loss of a little boy he didn’t know–your Zachary. Please know that all of us feel your loss, and hope that the love and support of the community may help you through this time of terrible grief. John Lennon said it best…and so we offer our love.
Dear Zachary,
You have touched my heart in so many ways. You have no idea how much I will miss your sweet little face. I feel so lucky to have known you and had the opportunity to be your friend. I will think of you everytime I eat Paneer Tikka Masala or listen to the Dodgers on talk radio (I’m sorry I always fought you on that, I should have let you listen everytime:) I will remember you everytime I tie Avery’s shoes as you were the first person to try to teach her how when she borrowed your converse. I’ll miss you everytime I walk into K2 and I’m not greeted by your sweet little voice, saying, “Do I getta come wif you today?” There are so many things that I will remember, so many things that I will miss. There was not enough time, and yet the time I had with you was such a gift.
Love,
Tatum
There are no words adequate to address this tragedy. What a loss to our little K-2 community and to the world. To Zach’s parents and family, we are grieving with you and want to encircle you with love…
My heart is heavy from hearing the news of Zachary, but I take this as evidence of the great love that fills the universe. My son, Tristan, knows Zachary from Le Conte, and I know the Le Conte family is deeply moved.
The above comment I think said everything so well. Please know that there are “strangers” who care deeply.
I send love to Zachary and to you. Our feelings at this moment are how we honor him deeply.
You have constantly been in our thoughts and prayers this weekend. My prayer is that you will feel wrapped in God’s love and he will carry you through this terrible time. We love you all!
I am extremely saddened by this tragedy of Feb.27th.
Being a welder in the SF Ironworkers,Zachary hit that much closer to my heart…….
My prayers will encompass Zach always !!!
May god bless the entire surviving family thru these trying times……and know…..you WILL have the strength to get thru this……………………..
Again, my deapest sympathy to the Cruz Family
At a time like this what a beautiful song to remember Zach by. I’m sure he’s in a good place waiting for mom and dad to return. You have my deep felt sorrow and sympathies on what you have lost: hopes and dreams